Anyone else out there have like NO FRIENDS...at all?

Question

I have really no friends. I think there's something really wrong with my ability to socialize. Im 28 years old, and know OF alot of people from all areas and stages of my life, but they dont really no me, and probably dont want to. Few people actually know my name and I guess im kinda shy. I only have one family member that I hang out with sometimes, but thats all.

The only time I ever had friends was when I was in elementary school, from 1st - 6th grades, and thats it. After that it all went down hill. I have like zero natural social instincts that come through when I need them to.

Anyone else like this?

Wow I never expted that response. I actually WANT friends. I feel stupid not having any. I dont think I shut people out.. I'd like to hang out more, do more things, have peole to talk to. Maybe I am a little picky though, I would'nt want just anyone as a friend. I really just would like to have smart fun friends. Not people involved in b.s.

Answer 1

I would say go to your local college and take a communication course. You'll learn how to talk to people and you could make new friends in the class. take like small groups communication or something so you'll be put into a small group. then, you'll do projects with your group member. There, try to talk to people and get to know people. It's better to have at least ONE person in your life that you could go to and talk to.

Maybe you work and could make friends at work. Or join a local gym or club and what not. Just do anything to get at least a single soul in your life. Well, take care.

Answer 2

The only real cure is to put yourself in social situations, and be social in social situations. Pick social situations where people who have the same interests would be. I know rejection can be a tough thing, but we all face it. The problem lays on how much importance we put on that rejection. Look at it this way, if you don't know them, and they dont know you, and they figure out based on whatever weird or shallow criteria they have, that they don't want to know you, what have you really lost? Nothing. You gained nothing, and lost nothing. The best friends I ever have had have been people who I shared a common bond with, a common fondness for something. I took up scuba diving, I now have scuba friends, I became a cop, I have cop friends. The tough part is jsut swallowing that knot in your throat, and being friendly and social, even if you are shy. Good luck.

Answer 3

I understand. I remember having friends in Jr high, but I have no contact with any of them. I know some people that have stayed in touch with the same people their whole lives. There's nothing wrong with you, you are just you and don't expect to be like someone else. If someone is telling you these things, get away from them. Usually, the only people who need friends around all the time are the ones who don't feel very good about themselves.

Answer 4

I am the same as you...I mean, there are people that I have know since I was 5 years old, but we do not hang out together. I only have one real friend that I hang out with like only every other month and there are my 2 sisters with whom I am very close with. I am very friendly with my co-workers & we laugh 'n joke around, but I don't hang out with them either. Of course, I prefer the solitude (reading, playing online games, studying the Bible, watching TV). I think people are intimidated by me because of my facial expression (I am not one to smile that much)...they assume that I am a mean person (which I'm not) without giving me a chance...or maybe it is the fact that I'm in my thirties with no kids & have never been married that they feel I am weird...who knows.

It always seems that it is easier for school age kids to have alot of friends, but when you become an adult, it gets harder & harder. And when you look around, you come to realize that maybe those same people who were your "friends" in elementary school have become your enemies.

Answer 5

It's not too late to change. If you want friends you can do what you have to do to make the changes you have to make in order to have what you want. Maybe you're happy without friends. But if you were you wouldn't be posting a question so it must be a problem. I would definitely look into some sort of support groups or just groups in general centered on shared interests maybe you'll meet a mate there's a world of possibilities waiting for you!

Answer 6

I'm sure that there are plenty of people out there that have this same thing going on. There are many diff. reasons that people don't bond friendships with others. One is being emotionally unavailable. Maybe going to a behavioral health clinic and getting counseling and medication might just do the trick.Good luck!

Answer 7

I don't have friends too,,,I was very private person,I was unhappy and lonely, I was a shopaholic and broked ,I cultivate to have some friends, by reading books "On How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, and that help me a lot.I have a lot of friends now. I am always invited to their family partys and I found out that friends are the best to have than material things. Friends makes me laugh and help me make my life easier.

Answer 8

Embrace the fact that you are an introvert (as opposed to being an extravert). As long as you're relatively happy and secure, it's really ok not to have a wide circle of friends (friends can be exhausting).

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Do you choose not to have friends like shut people out of your life? or just can't fit in? sorry I just choose not to have some friends because alot of people are difficult are you?