my friend is bisexual. he posted it in his myspace profile, and told me he was.
another kid confronted me and said "OH HE"S GAY I KNOW HE IS"
and i thought i was defending him by saying "he's not gay hes bisexual."
but apparently that was wrong of me to say because it wasnt my business to tell.
i thought i was defending him by saying he was bi not gay.
i guess he didn't want me to tell anyone.
but i dont know what i would say to someone saying " HES GAY "
when i know he's not.
...
now he said he can't trust me again.
what would you have said to the kid saying he was gay.
or what would you say to my friend so he will trust me again?
2007-01-23 14:46:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Next time warn me when I shouldn't repeat it.
Seriously, I don't think you were out of line. I think you acted with the best intentions and it's kind of unfair for him to blame you for his own mistake.
Just tell him you care about him and would never intentionally do something to hurt him. Say it was an honest mistake, that you feel bad about.
And ask him to warn you when he tells you something that he wants you to keep private. You're not a mind reader.
I'm sure everyone here will agree with this. So after everyone answers, just show him this.
Good luck to you :)
2007-01-23 14:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by ftm_poolshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the kid who said he was gay, I wouldn't have said anything. If anything, I would have said "Okay. Thanks for your opinion, like I care." and walked away, or lectured them on not talking about personal things that are none of their business.
To your friend, I would point out that you thought it was okay to discuss because he had divulged his bisexuality in a public forum like Myspace (at least, that's what I would assume).
Apologize like heck, even though (I think) you're not in the wrong.
And also, he could be taking offense at your 'defending him'. There's nothing wrong with being gay, or anything better about being bisexual than gay, so to defend him is to somehow imply that being called gay is an attack. Perhaps you should communicate that you weren't 'defending', but rather, 'correcting'.
Hope things go well between you two.
2007-01-23 23:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're friend posted it, there should be no argument. You were re-stating a fact that he mentioned. He may be having issues right now that would cause him to lash out at the wrong people.
In regards to the person saying "he's gay." That is just a lack of maturity. Ignore it and it will go away. Things should get back to normal. Hope all works out for you.
2007-01-23 22:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want anyone to know, but he put it on his myspace?
No offense, but is your friend kinda on the slow side? He has to know that someone is going to figure it out.
It was very noble of you to stick up for him, but then again telling people he's bi isn't really your place. I guess he just wants to do it on his own terms, but then again why would he put it on his myspace profile if that was the case?
I can't see how you taking up for him is a breach of trust, so you definitely need to talk to him about that.
If someone did that towards one of my bi friends then I'd probably curse them out and make them look like an idiot for even bringing it up, but not sure if I would have actually confirmed they were bi, at least not if we hadn't talked about other people finding out.
Let your friend know that you didn't realize that it was something he didn't want and that you weren't aware that it was going against his wishes.
Oh, and he needs to explain that myspace thing, cause it's just confusing.
2007-01-23 23:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your "friend" is an idiot. being bisexual is being gay. and if he
didn't want anyone to know why would he put it out there on
myspace for a worldwide audience of 150 million people to see?
2007-01-23 22:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by fisticuffs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the truth. Its his fault for "outing himself" on the internet! You never post anything you cannot afford to have exposed. EVER!
What you did was a kind and good thing to do, it was right. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-01-23 23:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have asked him what did he mean without divulging what I knew. Then once he explained to me or displayed his proof of the accusation, I would just look at him and walk away...leaving him wondering what I meant just to throw him off.
2007-01-23 22:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he can post this to the entire internet to read but he gets mad cause you repeat it to someone who asked?
You need better friends, move on.
2007-01-24 00:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have said read his profile, but hey looks like his fault.
2007-01-24 01:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he posted it then he wanted people to know
2007-01-23 23:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by 1401 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋