hi i am 17 year old & have been with my boyfriend for 2 years he is 20 we are engaged and we wont a baby, well its more him then me, were so happy and wont to start a little family im just afraid of pregnancy. i am a very insicore person ever since my childhood my dad left when i was six and i saw my mum & dad arguing, he cheated on my mum ever since that i feel that all men are the same i can't be on my own at all and can't even go into a shop and pay for things my dad was a pig and has messed me up. i have never had a boyfriend before in till the one i am with now i am petrofied of getting hurt and getting left alone and having a relationship like my mum had???? i really love my boyfriend i have seen him with kids and think he would be a super dad i just need go get my past out of my head.
2007-01-23 13:55:49 · 5 answers · asked by Roxy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
wait until you are sure about him. i think talking to someone would be a really good idea to help break your issues. dont feel bad about going to do so, everyone needs to talk to someone at some point. wait until youre married happily to start your family. and you have sufficent time to be happy with each other and make sure its the right time for it. but seriously, talking to a therapist would do you a world of wonders. it helped me with anxiety issues and i look at everything differently. most of the time you can get it covered in insurance and it wont cost a thing if thats something you need to worry about. i hope everything works out with you in the way you want it to
2007-01-23 14:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by hallie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a family is a wonderful thing, but doing it for the wrong reason can take the joy out of it. Unfortunately a lot of men are creeps, but there are a lot of great men out there. That is good that your boyfriend likes kids, but it's so different when it's your own. It's a lot of responsibility. By having a child at your age you may mess your child up just like your father did to you. Go to planned parenthood and get some info on family planning. Give it time, be glad you did.
2007-01-23 22:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you got some counseling about your issues with your dad, it would help you to feel better. Also, I know that you are 17 and you have a good relationship, but don't you think you are kind of young to be a mother? You have so much time to be a mom. Use this time that you have now to explore the world, and figure out what you want to do! I hope everything works out!
2007-01-23 22:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sad really is... but try not to feel all men do that cause i am for 1 a dude and i have 4 girls i know that know no matter what i'll always be there for them even when the world is against them and whenever i do get a gf i'lll prize her as much as i can and wouldn't do anything as you and i have experienced..( seen everything you have ) since their devorced now and i don't see my dad anymore just know not all men are like that i for 1 think it's stupid and a dumb *** thing for anyone to do to someone that loves them so best of luck with you and your bf i hope it doesn't turn out bad... he shouldn't want to if he loves you as you say he does :)
2007-01-23 22:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by boreddude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might love ur boyfriend and all..but ur only 17 years old live ur life first go out and have fun...then start ur family later on...u have lots of time...good luck! :)
2007-01-23 22:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋