I have this friend and she is 14 and she is a total tomboy. She wears the same clothes everyday, she lives on a farm and smells like farm animals everyday, whenever all of our friends are crushing on a really hot guy she says we are weird, when she gets older she doesn't want a daugher she just wants two sons, she wants to drive a truck, not a car. The list goes on and on. I really like her as a friend because she never talks bad about you and she is a TRUE friend so I am not tryng to be mean. But, I am just wondering if she will ever grow out of this tomboy phase and take care of herself a little more???
2007-01-23 13:53:37 · 18 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am not trying to judge my friend. I accept her the way she is. I am just curious if she will grow out of this. If she doesn't that's OK because she will still be my friend no matter what.
2007-01-23 14:03:56 · update #1
it may have to do with how she is raised, but she is only 14 and she seems happy with who she is and is a good friend to you, she has some more time to grow into who she is and it could take some time, she may change and she may not, so just accept her for who she is now because she may make little changes as she gets older but she has to stay true to herself whether she is still a tomboy or never really girly she will always be a true friend to you....
2007-01-23 14:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a tomboy is usually a phase that people grow out of. My sister was a tomboy and now she's a girlie-girl. It's always good to have a little tomboy in you though. Also consider her maturity level... if she's 14 and thinks crushing on guys is weird, she may be a step behind you and your friends. But with all honesty, she could very well be a lesbian also. But she won't know this until she explores her options. But trust me, once she gets a boyfriend (which will eventually happen), she will get out of this phase if she is heterosexual.
2007-01-23 14:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Aja D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she? She seems to be happy the way she is. None of her choices sound mean, ignorant or reckless to me. So what you're saying, essentially, is that she has to be a carbon copy of you to be accepted by you? Since you consider her a true friend who would never talk badly about anyone behind their backs, maybe you should try to become a little more like her and start acting like a true friend yourself.
2007-01-23 13:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a 76 percent chance that she will not grow out of that especially if that is what she really is and if she is happy in her life,
you see if she get a makeover and she likes the way it will look on her, then perhaps she would want to re think the way she dresses up, she might dress up better but never the girly fashion, she would always want to retain that spunk, as for her belief that she wants 2 sons , she has no way of knowing if she would attain that,she can change, if she is only hiding inside that piece of shell, you can try and just out of fun talk to her if she wants a makeover, if she is brave enough to say yes, then she is on her way to change
2007-01-23 14:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. She might change a little, but not completely! that's her personality and if you don't like it then maybe you aren't a good friend. If you talk to her then maybe she'll take care of herself more. Like deodarant or a change of clothes so she doesn't smell.
2007-01-23 14:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by go go gadget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does she need to change? Just because she isn't like you or other people you know doesn't mean there is anything wrong with who she is.
It makes no difference what she wears, or what she wants for her future...if she is happy wth her choices then you, to be a true friend, need to accept her for who she is...not try to get her to be something she isn't because it would be more comfortable for you.
2007-01-23 14:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should talk to her and ask her if she is ok with changing before you start changing her life and stuff. If she says ok then start doing girly stuff with her like shopping, getting your nails done, etc. If that doesnt change her maybe you should try teaching her to be more girlyier, and start liking boys and stuff. Maybe that will help?
2007-01-23 14:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley Johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might just be how she was raised, u shud hav a sleepover with makeovers and read girly magazines and such. if she doesnt want to be even a little girly you could tell her that it sorta bugs you, or that sometimes you might need to hang out and do girly stuff if shes not into it.
2007-01-23 13:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by bluewhitehouses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may grow out of it, she may not.
Just appreciate your friend the way she is.
True friends are hard to find. '-)
2007-01-23 14:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to believe that she will out grow some of, if not all of, her tomboyness. Give her some time and I think she'll grow out of it.
2007-01-23 13:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by LOS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋