ok. how do u know when ur gay? i mean like ya i know it might seems obvious but...anybody who is gay like when did you know you were gay what was the final thing that just made you say..u know wat.. im gay.. like how old where you how did u feel? cuz like i dono if im gay or not like i know i can tell the difference between a hot guy and an "ugly" guy...and also i know i like girls..so i might be bi. please anser..
o and i dont want straight guys coming on here and saying.. "when u like men duh".. i dont want those ansers
....and also it does not help when u just put "u just know".
thnx
2007-01-23 13:51:12 · 15 answers · asked by tyler 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There is actually a scale of measuring sexuality- the Kinsey Institute did this study (see link below). According to this study there is no one who is truly straight or truly gay...just measured in different degrees. The scale goes from 1 to 10, and measured in 3 sets; 1,2,3 or 2,3,4, or 3,4,5 etc and of course 4,5,6 being bi, 8, 9, 10 being more to gay, and 1,2,3 being more toward straight. The reason for the 3 number sets is because a 1,2,3 may believe they're straight, but there is always the possibility of a stray attraction for the same gender. And on and so forth. I am rated, at times- 3,4,5 but more at times to be 5,6,7. See if this rating scale could be useful in your finding an answer and hopefully you can find comfort in being who and what you are. Note: No one stays on the same rating all the time...it varies from time to time, rating to rating. Hope this made sense.
2007-01-28 02:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by doogie2man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no clear cut answer to your question. Everybody is different. For me, it was when I was in my teens and I knew that I liked guys a lot better than girls. I still like girls to talk to and stuff, but when it comes to anything other than casual conversation, I like guys. To say you just know is such a cliche. For some people, including me, the answer wasn't so cut and dry. There are a lot of pressures out there that say being gay is wrong and such. I don't believe that loving someone is wrong.
Being gay isn't just liking men, it goes a little deeper. You feel something that's a little deeper than just liking someone. When you look at a guy, you try to imagine spending time with him. Not just in bed, but silly things like going grocery shopping or riding someplace. If you're bi, you imagine this same image with both guys and girls.
I hope this helps. This is how it was for me, I can't answer for the rest of the world.
2007-01-23 14:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I knew since as far back as I remember. When I was little I had a crush on Gwen Stefani and I was like, four years old. Then I liked Uma Thurman, Madonna, Jessica Simpson, Reese Witherspoon, all of them. Never saw much in guys. I always knew I was gay. I just didn't realize it had a name and I didn't know it was considered wrong by some.
2007-01-23 14:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such measurement. U go out with people & u feel who do u feel more comfortable with. Also think about ur dream.... did u ever want to be a parent of ur own child? DOes it matter to u.... think everything through... Gay is not a gender... its the way how you behave in the society.
2007-01-23 13:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Galactic_Explorer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will begin to "know" when you fully realize that you are a member in good standing of about 10% of the total population and not just a poor soul all by yourself.
Good luck to you, the road is rough sometimes; but better to be on the road than in the closet hiding.
2007-01-23 13:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think i knew when I posted a question on yahoo asking "when did you know." kidding...
I always suspected there was something different, and I always had an attrcation to males. Unfortunatley I tried to fool myself/ others and went out with girls for a while b/w 15 and 20 or so... That wasn't cutting it... Be true to yourself, in due time your heart will direct you in the right direction. Be strong and trust what it's telling you.
2007-01-28 08:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? ok permit me attempt and parent this out your chum have been given a woman yet he grow to be gay? and you desire to appreciate if he's extremely gay or merely bi? umm if he grow to be with a woman then hes probably bi, or at a loss for words approximately how he feels.
2016-11-26 22:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's easy to just say "if you're attracted to your own gender" or "you just know"....but, you WILL know when that feeling towards your own gender is overwhelming. I was kind of confused in my early teens...going through puberty. so many of my friends had boyfriends...and I just felt nothing for guys. finally, my 1st semester of college when I was 18, I met this great gal, and it was like..wow! it was being hit upside the head the way I felt (turns out she was terminally straight...we were just friends...oh well!). I was really shy at the time, so it took me a while to "come out" of my shell. but, believe me...you will know!
2007-01-23 14:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i knew what and who i felt i wanted to 'play around with' when i was 7 or 8... but guess it was when i was 12 or 13. id catch myself looking at guys down the hallway- and tell myself, "im gay, alright."
2007-01-23 14:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by louie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a good looking man touches you and you get butterfly in your stomach. Straight guys shower together at the gym and don't feel anything. If you enjoy or get aroused by seeing naked good looking guys, you're definitely gay.
If you feel the same to girls, then you are a bi.
2007-01-23 13:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋