There are things that my wife gets mad when i do and i havent been completely honest with her just to have her happy or to not start any problems.Things include friends, family and even things i do.
2007-01-23 13:51:09 · 33 answers · asked by cub24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before you got married you should have been honest. But also if she is getting mad because you are spending time with your family and or friends then she needs to get over it. Don't hide things to make her happy, she deserves to know everything, she is your wife. But how she reacts is her problem. Either she accepts you the way you are or not.
2007-01-23 13:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that causes her anger? Not including her? Spending too much time doing it? Have you sat down with her and discussed what you are doing?
Marriage is about compromise. If you want to spend the afternoon watching the Colts win the Super Bowl, then she should be able to spend the day going shopping with her friends.
Women have a need to do things with the men in their lives regardless of how the men feel. Sometimes you have to tell her no, you don't like doing whatever and help find an alternate way to approach it.
But of all things, do be honest and let her know you expect the same honesty in return. You can words things in a way that won't be hurtful but you'll have to work on it.
2007-01-23 13:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's no time like the present. Part of what she'll be most upset about is how long you've kept her in the dark. Most of what was most essential to your character (good or bad habits) should've been discussed when you knew she was the one to spend your life with. Since that did not happen, why prolong what needs to be said. Knowing your wife as you do, you can relatively predict her reaction and I don't think time will change that. What's best to do, is think about your reasons for keeping secrets and what has changed, what it meant to finally tell her, and how you'd like to make this the point in which everything truly is out and that you'll work on keeping it this way as things arise in the future. Good luck
2007-01-23 13:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean at what point in your relationship should you be honest with your wife? If you are not honest all the time then there is no trust, if there is no trust what kind of marriage do you have? You need to sit down with your spouse and completely honest with her and face what ever happens.
2007-01-23 14:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Alma A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really have to be honest to your wife at every level in your relationship whether she accepts it or not- not just because she might have a different point of view on things but because she has the RIGHT to know whats going on between you. Afterall she's your wife and you both swear in front of God that you'll become ONE- which also means sharing of thoughts ideas.
2007-01-23 14:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest with each other should have started "before" you got married. Once the Lies start, the trust slowly starts to break down and before you know it, you Both are in Divorce Court. You both need to sit down and talk seriously about what is going on and Be honest with each other. I am sure she is probably holding some things back from you also, and needs to get them off her chest also..Good luck
2007-01-23 14:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that before you got married! Anyway you should not be hiding or should not have to hide things from your wife. It sounds like your wife is jealous of the things and people in your life. Thats not goodshe should try to be A little more understanding if this is the problem. Ihope that you will stop hiding things from your wife though that might be why she gets angry .You should have mutual respect for each other. you should not put others before your wife though, this can cause her to feel insignificcant in your life no one wants to feel like that. I hope this helps you.
2007-01-23 14:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by leapinleah2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest. - If she finds these things out elsewhere you will be in trouble....and if you think you have problems now, Wow the sh*t will hit the fan if she finds out.
Do you want to be married? The honesty should of been there before you got hitched.
Be honest ,or do you want to live a lie ?...... If you keep lying even if you feel its to protect her.Your not being honest with yourself.....
2007-01-23 14:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Aussie_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being dishonest in ANY aspect of your marriage is going to be trouble. Lying leads to mistrust...which will eventually lead to divorce.
What you need to do is understand WHY your wife gets upset about things you do, talk to her about it, and maybe come to a compromise. She could have good reason for getting upset...it could be as simple as her feeling left out... as you are married and should be sharing friend, family & other activities together...
communication is the backbone to a marriage...so you need to talk to your wife about things you disagree on, not lie about them.
2007-01-23 13:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always be honest. i think you should sit down with her and discuss the things that you havent told the truth about, and tell her you want to change and from here till the "end", youll try your best not to be dishonest.
if she finds out on her own, itll be a lot more trouble than you can imagine
2007-01-23 13:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋