We were all children once...and sometimes still are. If your parent beat you when you were young, why do you think that would happen?
As an observer of life, I see parents all the time with their children. Playing and hugging them. Those children knows no fear, because they have never been beaten. For the children that have been abused, it stays with them for a long time. And they still look for answers....do you have any?
2007-01-23 13:48:51 · 6 answers · asked by Dave 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i grew up in a family where there was not alot of affection (hugging and kissing)....i make a point of giving my children heaps of affection every single day as a result of that....they are constantly told how much i love them...something i never had either....
2007-01-23 13:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my son was small, lots of hugs, personal play time, reading stories to him. Teenage years, I would look for things to praise him about, I would involve him in decisions, often pointing out all the options and letting him make the decision. We talk out problems that arise, I try to guide rather than direct. Result: he is in 2nd year of junior college 4.0 GPA. We have a great relationship and enjoy doing things together.
2007-01-23 14:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Richard P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. First, understand that your parents were wrong. It's hard to admit that your parents...the ones who were supposed to be the authority, and always right...were faulty, but they were.
Then, REALLY look at why you're hesitant about things. Find one thing you're hesitant about, and push ALL of your parents influence out of your head. Ask yourself why you're nervous about trying it (I don't mean bungee jumping or sky diving). Then, take a small step toward your goal. You'll find that no one yells at you...no one threatens you...no one even looks at you funny. Take another step. Just keep doing that until you reach your goal.
Gradually, things get much easier.
I showed my son love by interacting with him...getting to know WHO he was...having conversations with him...not just talking AT him. I showed him respect and he showed me respect. I allowed him to display affection and never made him feel ashamed of showing compassion or concern for someone, or something else, and telling him that I loved him.
2007-01-23 13:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important way show love.. is to say I LOVE U... every single day. My parents never told me that and i was always lonley, depressed.. and i felt unloved.
2007-01-23 13:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only smack your kids when they do something wrong, and you don't hit them with a belt! Palm firmly swung upon the buttocks every time they do something they know is wrong and they will soon learn that their parents do it so they will stop doing it.
2007-01-23 13:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Durr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that one answer could explain it for everyone. Abuse has different causes, different manifestations, different effects.
I would guess the best place to find answers is deep within.
2007-01-23 13:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋