2007-01-23 13:48:45 · 15 answers · asked by Circlometry™ 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You know what I think it is?
I call it growing pains. Every "relationship" I've been in has those first months of euphoria where you are just ga ga goo goo over the person to the point where you notice nothing else in life but them.
Then as you encounter issues in your day to day life you begin to learn each other's habits and ways of dealing with problems as they arise. Differences always come up. The key is in discovering whether you can live with these differences, accept them, adapt to them, talk them out or just toss up your hands and walk away.
So many times, people are used to this "predetermined time" when all seems to surface, that they just walk away out of habit, somehow feeling that it was never going to work in the first place.
That's where I worry that someone will always be alone.
For its the person that sees the virtue is wading through the storm of the growing pains until they come out on the other side..... stronger and closer than ever to the one they love. Oh man...... it's so amazing once you get through those initial 'pains' because then you feel sooooo much more comfortable with one another. No longer is anyone sitting on a pedestal waiting to fall. Both of you are now a team..... a partnership that knows how to work things out.
So I can see how one might feel that relationships have a predetermined time limit. But beating the odds....... that's when you know the relationship is true.... and more than worth it!!
2007-01-25 03:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
All except for a few.
The only relationships that I have been able to maintain are with my family members and my best friend but she counts as family so...
Everyone else, it seems like there's this point where I just can't take it anymore. It just stops working out. The comfort goes away. I don't feel like working on it. I just... lose the drive.
It's awful.
But I'm finally acknowledging that the people that are worth it, those that really matter in the end and weren't just passing lessons or whatever... they stick around and it's easy.
2007-01-24 02:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by falzalnz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up until I met my husband Brad all relationships were on a 2 year time span. Brad's my 3rd marriage but we've been together for 8 years now. I had a wandering eye and always wanted to move on to something "newer and better" previously. Yah, I can admit it was mostly me that caused the demise of my relationships, but now I finally realize that the grass is greener on MY side. I think I finally grew up.
2007-01-23 21:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by chicpower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for almost 11 years now so not sure what the time limit would have been...doesnt feel like its been 11 years
2007-01-23 21:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha ha
i was with one guy for 12 years
then the next guy for 12 years
my new bf says "just give me my 12 years like everyone else got"
2007-01-23 21:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! My friend are just that, my friends and i accept them for who they are!!!!! Great question....Thank You!
2007-01-23 21:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-23 21:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by I hate carrots 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Unless you count the 'to death do us part' bit. ; )
2007-01-23 21:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure
2007-01-23 21:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
2007-01-23 21:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋