Currently, I've just been withdrawn from engineering. I had a very hard time keeping up. I've become very tired physically, and mentally. The counselor tells me that my best chances are is work for one year and apply to university again for Sept 2008, which is exactly what I plan to do now. However, when I called my parents, she was devastated and she said some terrible things to me like I've just killed all the years that I have ahead of me. It sound as though by being withdrawn from university, I've scarred myself for life.
Is this true? That I just through my entire future and every slightest dream I ever had? Because if this is true, I suppose I should just end my life right now.
Someone please enlighten me!!
2007-01-23 13:18:07 · 15 answers · asked by sweetmusic 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
that is not at all true. i also took a year off because like you i was going through an overload. i worked very hard to keep my 4.0 GPA but in turn i found that being a wife, mother, student, employee, and a human was just too much. just don't forget to go back because you really need to finish what you start. most parents and those that haven't been through school yet do not realize how overly taxing it can be. you never sleep because you are either doing homework or dreaming of doing it all night long. i even had a professor look at our class and say that he doesnt see how we learn anything since they teach us in 12 weeks what was once taught over 2 years. give yourself a break and if you cant make your parents understand then maybe it's time you take those lessons you've learned to negotiate a 1 senester break with no input and return in the spring.
2007-01-23 13:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by painfully yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sounds like your parents are overreacting. I suggest you follow the counselor's plan and work for a year and figure out what you want to do with your life. I would seek the advice of a career counselor and take some vocational and personality tests to see if engineering is the right fit for you or if some other occupation is a better fit. Maybe you were meant to be a teacher, businessman or some other occupation. If you work for a year, go find some jobs in some fields you may be interested in.
As far as dealing with your parents, they will lighten up once they see that you have a solid plan with a timeline for figuring out your life.
Why are you tired mentally and physically? You sound young. Do you have health problems? Maybe you are depressed and you don't realize it? Depression is a medical disease and can prevent you from functioning well in school no matter how smart you really are.
Also, don't end your life. If you still feel like that after reading this, go see a physician or counselor. Taking your life would the the biggest waste.
2007-01-23 13:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by violetkites 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT TRUE!!! If your college counselor gave you that advice, then it's probably good because that person knows your grades and chance for readmission. If you had a really hard time in engineering, that may not be the best place for you. Investigate with your counselor alternative areas that would better match your gifts and talents.
There are ALWAYS options. Don't be discouraged. We all have some wake-up calls like this. You need to explore your aspirations and dreams and see what you REALLY want to do. It's never too late!!! It is NOT THE END! You are a bright person who just needs some redirection.
NOTHING is worth taking your life!!! You are in control!!! No one or no thing can beat you. This is a minor setback. Don't let others control your emotions--they're yours and under your control. If you still feel suicidal, call a friend. Call 911 if you need to because they will evaluate you and take you to the hospital if you are a threat to yourself. Then you can get some help.
God loves His children and wants the best for you. Now, get off your pity pot and start researching options! I mean that in a caring way!!!
2007-01-23 13:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Diana Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT scarred for life at all. You are tired and you sound like you need a rest and some kindness. I think your plan to work for a year and re apply is a good one. For goodness sakes it is only one year that you need to get yourself rested and ready to restart. Don't let your parents make you feel so guilty. If I were you I would take a couple of weeks. Take care of yourself, get a job with some nice people. Maybe even take a course over the summer months. Engineering is VERY VERY tough. You should tell your parents to try it! Anyway you have your whole life ahead of you. Just make a plan regarding the next 12 months and don't worry. You will be back on track before you know it. Maybe take a lighter load next time. God bless you.
2007-01-23 13:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by ja m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Scarred for life?....absolutely not.. that is very dramatic and overstated as is the reaction of your mom....I'm sure she is just disappointed, and as a good parent, just wants the best for you. Unless you are a 60-year-old university student (I'm assuming you're in your 20's) you have a whole life of learning, adventure and misadventure ahead of you. Finding out that university isn't for you at this time in your life should be a positive experience and an opportunity to explore other vocations and educational tools. There are sooooo many wonderful and meaningful careers that are taught at colleges, technical institutes, arts centres and in apprenticeship situations......be brave.......be smart..... and talk turkey with your parental units about what you want to do.......... I wish you all the best
2007-01-23 13:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by jourdepaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOO!!! You will be just fine, and don't even joke about suicide. Speaking as someone who came very close to losing a best friend to it, just - don't do it.
You'll still be able to try again in a year - with some extra money hopefully - and even if that doesn't work out, you'll still have plenty of options. You're obviously very bright to even get into an engineering program to begin with, and taking a break won't ruin your life. Just keep your attitude positive and don't let your mom get to you. Mom's just tend to get a little over-protective and don't always realize how hurtful their words can be.
Just take a deep breath, and take things one step at a time.
2007-01-23 13:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have not thrown your entire future away. Assuming you are in good health, you most likely have a LONG life ahead, which in turn we can assume that you'll have plenty of time to finish your engineering degree.
I think it was smart of you to realize, "Hey, I'm not keeping up." and to realize that it was causing you to feel worn out physically and mentally - and it is wise for you to step back a bit, let your mind and body focus on other things for a period of time to regroup, recharge, refocus - and THEN go back to school.
There is no rule that says you have to charge straight through your education. There is no rule that says if you don't you'll end up miserable. Even if you never went back, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're throwing your life away. It may mean you won't make as much money as you potentially could in engineering - but money is no guarantee that you'll be happy, fulfilled and successful. Some of the happiest, most well-adjusted folks I know - who, by the way, I have a lot of respect for and have learned alot about life from, are people who don't have a college education or who are in their 40s and still working on their educaiton.
Your mom just wants what she thinks is best for you. All parents want that for their children - me included. She was probably having lots of fun chatting with her friends, oh my kid is in engineering, and such. Parents LIKE to have bragging rights. She'll get to have them again.
You do what you need to do for you and, when you're ready, go back to school.
Good luck to you and however you end up choosing to spend your future!
2007-01-23 13:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life isn't over because you withdrew. A lot of college students withdraw for various reasons and when they return to school, many perform better than ever because they've had a reality check and some time to recuperate and prepare themselves for what they'll need to do. Good luck in the work force and starting back with school next year!
2007-01-23 13:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not have been looking into your grandparents' room. Sex between married people is sanctioned by God. It's part of marriage. The lesson here is that not just young people enjoy the intimacy of sex. In fact, if it weren't for your grandparents having sex, one of your parents wouldn't be here and YOU wouldn't be here. Something to think about. Just don't let on what you saw and put it out of your mind. Don't go looking through cracks in doors anymore. Good lesson.
2016-05-24 02:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only do what you can do. You did your best - be PROUD OF YOURSELF!!! Maybe you were meant to go on a different path. Life is a journey and a learning experience. You never know, this could have been the BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU!! A BLESSING!!!! God Bless! Much success - I know you'll do great!!:)
2007-01-23 13:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋