I recently started being friend with a girl i met through my bestfriend's sister. She seemed really nice, and funny, and trustworthy. I have learned though, that she is not as honest as I thought she was.
She tells a lot of lies, and when my best friend and I catch her in them, we confront her about it. She says sorry, that she'll never do it again.
I have told her that I do not drink. I do not want her to try and involve me in her drinking.
Then over this past weekend she kept trying to tell me that it wasnt that big of a deal if she drank. I told her I wanted her to stop because I was concerned about her. I asked her why she never asked my best friend ( her friend too) to drink with her? She said:
"Because you're easily minipulated"
Her dad has a drinking problem, and her mom just does care.
I dont get anything out of the realtionship. She lies to me all the time, and I feel like a bad person if i end the relationship b/c i feel like she needs someone in her life
2007-01-23 13:16:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friend has decided not to talk to her anymore, but I find it really hard because I feel like I am doing something wrong by not trying to help her even more.
Is it okay if I stop talking to her, and stop being her friend even though I know she could use my support but just refuses to listen to me.
2007-01-23 13:17:35 · update #1
You can't help someone that doesn't want help and this is the case here. This girl is a straight up liar and a maniuplator. She's proved that. She's not really your friend anyway. The only reason you're her friend is because you feel sorry for her. That's not a friendship. The only reason she's friends with you is because she thinks she'll wear you down eventually and she'll have a partner in crime. You sound like a smart girl (seriously!) so get out now. Your other friend did right and got away from her, now you do the same.
I had a friend like this. She shoplifted, did drugs, you name it, she did it. The older we got, the worse stuff she did and that's not the life I wanted so I dropped her. Now she's got 4 kids from 3 different guys, is on welfare and lives with her mom. She's 28. Not a good life, right? After she realized her way wasn't all that cool and my goody goody way weren't so bad, she tried to come back into my life and I ignored her. That's the same track your friend is heading on. Sometimes you can stop a person from that life because it's what they want. You might feel a little bad for ditching her because you're a decent person but I promise you, you'll feel a lot worse if you ride with her and end up getting in trouble for her stupidity. Good luck and remember, you've got your own brain, don't let this loser bring you down!
2007-01-23 13:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your job to babysit her. Theres also nothing you can do about her drinking. I would walk away from her. Just tell her if she ever decides to stop drinking you will be there for her but as long as she drinks you cant deal with it.
If you read book on alcoholism you will realize you cant do anything for her. She has to want to stop. Dont feel guilty because you have your own life to deal with and thats a lot of work in itself.
2007-01-23 21:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have enough to do rather than play babysitter to a bad friend who is a drunk. Call her parents and tell them whats going on. They need to know so they can get her the help she needs. If they are unwilling to listen, call the cops, and she will get her first minor consuming! Seriously, don't mess around with this. You have two choices. Stay friends with a bad person, or kick her to the curb and chalk it up to learning how not to be in life!
2007-01-23 21:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by continuing to "support" her you are 'enabling' her to continue the drinking and bad behavior. There is nothing wrong with being her friend but don't let her manipulate you as she appears to be trying to do. Make her take responsibility for her actions. Above all don't let her talk you into drinking.
2007-01-23 21:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by Butch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you planed out you future and really care for your social status get rid of her and friends like that, these kind, will bring you down faster than a bollet ....
2007-01-23 21:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain this to your mom so that she can get Family services involved and you won't be responsible. You can not help her.
2007-01-23 21:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs professional help. If you do talk to her, suggest it.
2007-01-23 21:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing u can do...it will be her choosing to stop drinking...but whatever u do dont get into it....
2007-01-23 21:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by I love when emo boys make out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋