a couple months back i was dating a guy..i never wanted to have sex with him cause i wanted to save myself for marriage but then my boyfriend raped me..i told my mom and had charges pressed againt him, which he got acuitted of cause his family has alot of $$ so they paid people to lie about me in court and it was just a big messy situation..well needles to say i am now 27 weeks pregnant..i was considering abortion at first cause i do think its a womens choice but i couldnt once i saw my baby on the sonogram..adoption was also an option but my mom said that if i kept the baby she would help me out..so i decided to keep the baby..i dont want my childs father near the baby..is there any way i can get child support from him with very minimal contact??
also can i get a retrial for my case??
i am also finished with high school already so thats not a problem me being in school and theres no way that he could ever get custody.
thank you for all those who help me by answering my question.
2007-01-23 13:02:29 · 23 answers · asked by Tayler M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Most of the time if you take money from him for child support He then has rights!! The best thing to do is stay away from him..get a good attorney..If he wanted custody and has lots of money doesn't sound like it would be hard for him to get it..If he got out of the other trial sounds like he could do anything!! Good luck!!
2007-01-23 13:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by jewel64052 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have a very messy situtation. I am glad that you have decided to keep the baby. If not there are lots of ppl (like me) that can't have children and would love to adopt a child. I have lost 2 children and one in the Hospital. So get money without letting them be apart of the child's life would be hard you are going to have to prove that he is a threat to the baby. If you lost the trial that is going to be hard. If you don't mind his family being apart of this then you could have supervised visits. Be warned....if they talked bad about you early on they may ask for a parternety (spelling) test to prove he is the father. Just a warning! I wish you and your baby all the luck and I hope that things get better for you.
2007-01-23 21:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you might want to get him and his lawyer with you and your lawyer and get him to sign over parental rights, or it could get very ugly in the future. you can make a pact saying that he has no rights to the child and doesn't have to pay child support. That's one thing out of the way.
as for a retrial, of course you can try it again, but just remember, if you can get those people to confess that they did lie on the stand he can go to jail for a very long time, and so can they (it's called pergery, sorry I don't know the spelling). good luck to your situation and if I was in your situation I'd tell the father to forget about that night and his child.
2007-01-23 21:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to get child support with out any contact at all I'm not sure how to do this but if you get in contact with your child suport then they should talk it through with you.
if his family has paid people to lie then it may be difficult you need to come up with new evidence against him because if you get a retrial and have no new evidence then you'll be waisting time. have a word with the people that got paid to lie and ask them to re appear in Court and tel the Truth they wouldn't like it if it happened to a member of there family or even them this boy should be punished for what he did and learn that he cant do things and not pay the consequences.
2007-01-23 21:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is! Contact the Child Support Enforcement Division of your state and they will help you free of charge. That includes getting the paternity affidavit or tests. On the form in the state I live in, there is a place where you can explain your situation and any extenuating circumstances.
Also- don't hesitate to take advantage of any other benefits the Dept. of Health and Human Services can offer until you are completely self-sufficient.
Sadly, you probably won't be able to get your case retried unless there is new evidence, but even if he was acquitted or the charges dropped, it will still always be over his head.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-23 21:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... Lots of questions there. Let me first say, motherhood is about thinking about what's best for the child. Period. I don't know you, so I can't tell you what that might be.. only you can do that. I will encourage you, though, to look closely at how ready you are for single motherhod.
First, if you keep the child, you will be connected with his or her father for the rest of the child's life. Biological fathers have the right to contact with their children... and if you're going to demand child support, you're going to have to deal with him, and any demands he might make for custody and visitation. It's the law. He's entitled to those things even if he's NOT paying support.
Second, no retrial... once someone is acquitted, it's done.
Good luck to you...
2007-01-23 21:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. I would not know what to do if this happened to my daughter. You can try and get him for child support, however , you will need to have test done or even give the baby his name. In, order to get child support without marriage they would have to do paternity test. Make him pay, if he wants rights. If he wants nothing to do with the baby, your best thing is to leave him alone. If he is ordered to pay, he has rights to the baby. I am glad that you are well! You can go back and ask for another trial, however if he was acquitted on all charges, most likely they will not allow you again. Sorry, please keep me posted on what will happen. Mom of seven
2007-01-23 21:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you could get a retrial...no one can be tried for the same thing twice. Im glad you finished school but your spelling seems to be off quite a bit and your very young. If he proves that the child is his he can and will get visitation even though you dont want him to. Im impressed your taking responsibility for your child and maybe the courts will set him up with supervised visitation. Best wishes!
2007-01-23 21:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lupester L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about all this for you. Unfortunately, if you want child support, the father has rights. You really need a powerful attorney to help make this right for everyone involved. Just remember that you are the voice for your innocent baby. I suggest you go to donatemoney2me.com and tell your story. I applaud your choice to keep this baby, kudos to your mom too! God bless you all
2007-01-23 21:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by nanamama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off you sound mature and i am sure you will be a good mom...i was fifteen when i had my son and yes you have to give up some things but it is worth it when you hear people tell you that you are a good mom. as far as child support goes i hate to tell you this but its difficult. my son is three and i have not recieved a dime. Also the father could say that he wants visitation if he has to pay. i know how hard that is because my ex is on drugs and i refused to let him see our son. Best of luck to you though!
2007-01-23 21:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by n&z-mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋