My fiance has graduated college already and i am supposed to graduate this year.My bf has however made the choice to leave his job because he wants to be an ultimate fighter?How can i support him and gently urge him to keep a day job? I still dont fully understand him?
2007-01-23 12:37:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am afraid my man even though he can hold his own and used to do this sort of thing as a hobby might get hurt?I love him and want to stand by him we have been together 2 yrs.
2007-01-23 12:38:26 · update #1
Watch Rocky I, II, III, IV, and V and then do what Rambo's wife does.
2007-01-23 12:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him exactly what you just said. Make sure he knows how you feel, but be careful not to trample his dreams.
A person without dreams or aspirations is an empty shell going through life. This sounds like its something your fiance has always been into and is pretty serious about. However, there may be a need for you to remind him of his commitment to you as well.
Having said all that, don't push too hard. You may find out later in life that this has more to do with him panicking a little about the concept of marriage and work for the rest of his life. He may be having some level of an "early life crisis" where he is having to come to the realisation that his single life will soon be over and his dream of becoming a UFC fighter may not be that practical.
Make sure he knows how you feel, but be sensitive to his needs and feelings as well. This may be extremely important to him and if so, you need to respect that and decide how well it fits your lifestyle.
2007-01-23 20:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by bmblack34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to look for a job doing personal security (bodyguard). That way part of his 'day job' will allow him to work out his skills and train for what he really wants to do. In the meantime, pin him down on exactly what will be expected of you in the relationship as he takes his shot. Talk specifics, finances, time, etc...
Good luck
2007-01-23 20:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him you will stand by his decisions, but it is not your responsability to support him if tyhat waht he want to do, but I would stand by him if you really love him and let him get it out of his system now, you might be thankful later.As far as getting hurt, well you can get hurt just about as bad geting oput of bed in the morning. the is no garuntee of safe in life its all about numbers.
2007-01-23 20:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Thom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to talk him out of it. it isnt a good career choice. if something were to happen in the octagon then what. he would have nothing to show for it.
2007-01-24 03:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fiance or boyfriend? get it straight!
2007-01-23 20:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋