why can't I stop thinking about having a baby?

Question

My husband and I are both 22 and have good jobs. My husband is working on going back to school and we are saving to buy a house. However, all I can do is think about having a baby. I have a baby dream about once a week. We want to wait until we have a house. We are finacially stable and have no problem paying bills. Once in awhile we have a lower paycheck, but alway enough for the bills. We both want one, but more so we want to wait until we are comfortable from every aspect. I just wish I could set these baby feelings aside. If it did happen we would both be ecstatic. But again, we want to wait. So what is it I need to do to make my mind stop wishing and dreaming to the point of tears?

Answer 1

Get a dog.

Answer 2

I remember thinking the equal thing after I was 23 i'm now 27 and have a youngster. I don't think there is something that you can do to stop excited about it. I'm blissful that i did not get pregnant and have a youngster at 23 since I did not dwelling my existence unless 25 that's once I had all my enjoyable. It is high-quality to attend when both of you guys are able. Once I received pregnant it was once a surprise :) i would not change it for the world but i wish that it had been deliberate. I suppose what i am announcing is its ordinary!! Excellent luck :)

Answer 3

Hi there. I am 28 and my husband and I have been married since we were 20. At first I felt like this but both of us were in school and trying to become financially stable. I used to really want a baby but I am not sure that would have been a good idea that early in marriage. I am so happy that we didn't get pregnant back then because we wouldn't have had time to learn each other and go on vacations traveling is sooo much fun without a worry at home. Don't get me wrong having a baby is a wonderful thing but we still don't have kids and everything is wonderful. Don't rush it make sure you two know each other well enough to have kids. Alot of people have kids when they get married just to please others. Please yourself first!! You definately won't regret it!! Have fun you have the rest of your life. Pursue your dreams first then have as many babies as you want!!!!!!

Answer 4

Always enough for the bills is not enough for a baby. Do this, pretend you are shopping for a baby for just one week of care, also include all the things you need to have for a baby. That is just the beginning, then take that money and figure all the things you will have to give up at such a young age, and would it be nice to be able to have a baby after you have a house and more than just enough to pay the bills.

Answer 5

i undergo in concepts wondering a similar element at the same time as i become 23 i'm now 27 and performance a touch one. i do not imagine there is something that you'll be able to do to end wondering about it. i'm satisfied that i did not get pregnant and performance a touch one at 23 because i did not commence living my existence till 25 it really is when I had all my interesting. that is optimal to attend at the same time as both one of you adult adult males are waiting. when I were given pregnant it turned right into a wonder :) i doesn't replace it for the international yet i wish that it were planned. i wager what i'm retaining is its organic!! good success :)

Answer 6

I think everyone wants to wait until "they are ready". Guess what... you are never ready. I rent a 3 bedroom house. We make our bills but not a whole ton more money to throw around. We have 3 kids and are waiting for #4. We are thrilled. Sometimes I think people want the material things but their minds want the others. Nothing would make me happier than a house of my own. BUT.. when I walk into my rental and I see my kids... I am home!! Perhaps you need to rethink your plans or set a definite time to start trying. Maybe that will help set you mind at ease!

Answer 7

Hun I have a baby and it's not all what it's cracked up to be, believe me.... it's hard physically and emotionally, it puts a strain on a relationship (well mine at least)... If I could of I would have waited, but I love my daughter with all my heart...... and wouldnt give her back even if I could, but it is hard..... I would get everything that I wanted in life.. before having another baby.... good luck.... do what you feel in your heart, only the both of you can pick weather or not to go through with it...... - Ash

Answer 8

When you want to have a baby this bad, trust me it's hard to get it out of your mind.
I'm 30 years old and been pregnant twice but miscarried and cannot seem to get pregnant again. I am wonderful with children and would make a wonderful mother, but it's just not "in the cards" for me.
I think you should go for it. Talk him into it. Have them early enough that you won't be too old to enjoy them.

Answer 9

Having a baby can be a beautiful and joyous thing! Think of the hardships you would go through with your husband. You would have to buy A LOT of things for the baby. Either that or have sex.

Answer 10

well you can never stop this feeling from coming out because you're a woman and it's the wish of every female to hear the word "Mom" from her kid...but as long as you need time, then you have to convince yourself that you will have a baby when you feel that you and your husband are comfortable enough to have a child...
wish you good luck

Answer 11

you really need to tell your husband how you feel tell him that you cant wait....but just to tell you you NEED to wait if you dont wait you might just have a baby and then yall might get were you cant pay the bills then what?...just wait get a job and then hey have 5 kids.....lol....j/p...but there is no reason to not get a magazine about babies and pick names...im ready for a baby to i get mag. all the time learn everything i can kno b/c i dont want to be a bad mom!!!,,,,,Good Luck!!