My husband and I are both 22 and have good jobs. My husband is working on going back to school and we are saving to buy a house. However, all I can do is think about having a baby. I have a baby dream about once a week. We want to wait until we have a house. We are finacially stable and have no problem paying bills. Once in awhile we have a lower paycheck, but alway enough for the bills. We both want one, but more so we want to wait until we are comfortable from every aspect. I just wish I could set these baby feelings aside. If it did happen we would both be ecstatic. But again, we want to wait. So what is it I need to do to make my mind stop wishing and dreaming to the point of tears?
2007-01-23 12:29:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just accept these dreams. It's natural. Sounds like you have strong motherly instincts. Your body is telling you that you're ready. But be patient. You're still very young and you should enjoy your freedom. Just because your hormones are telling you to have one, it does not mean your life will be easier if you do have one. The cost of a child is on average 10k a year (including day care). Your relationship with your husband will change completely. Be sure to tell him your feelings so that he understands your desires. If you are looking for a house, then be sure to get one with at least 3 bedrooms (chances are your hormones will tell you to have another one when the baby starts to be 1 year old, this is common). Otherwise a 2 bedroom house is too small to begin with, which can lead to more stress.
My fiance and I are in a similar situation. We've been together for 12 years now (including college). We've both decide to wait until it is most advantageous for us to have one (despite her hormones). She also has dreams. Now we're 30 and we both have high paying careers. She now has a job where she can work at home anytime she wants. We live in a 4 bedroom house. If one of us loses a job, we'll still be fine. We're getting married this September. We'll be in Paris for our honeymoon. Soon after, we'll start trying for a baby. Patience is key if you want to relieve a ton of stress. It also allows you to live the lifestyle that you want to live.
2007-01-23 19:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These feeling's are very normal.You have the right idea by wanting to wait until you are more financially stable and have a home.Trust me raising a baby is very expensive these day's and you don't want to have to struggle..I would suggest right now for you to babysit if you know anybody with small children If not look around in your area and see if they need any volunteer's at your local hospitals preferably a childrens hospital..If you can't do those thing's then you need to find something that you enjoy doing and keep yourself occupied.Try reading a book that has nothing to do with children before you go to bed.
2007-01-23 20:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe get pregnant. How long until you buy your house?? It takes 9 months for the baby to come. Maybe you need the pregnancy, or you will be unhappy and feel an emptiness. ALot of help is there when the baby comes, you know with all the gifts and whatnot.......you won't have to buy a whole lot
2007-01-23 20:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound bored.
Just focus on your job or something else important that gets you to your next goal in life. It is so easy to think about something you THINK will make your life perfect.
Focus on the costs of having a kid. (it is over $1 million in 18 years)...focus on your career. Go to the gym. The point is that a baby will not make your life perfect. So wait for the perfect time or you will kick yourself later. 22 is a child...really it is...you have lots of time to be at home raising more kids.
2007-01-23 20:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
22 is still young but there's no good or bad time to have a baby.
I'm 32, no children, just got married and now I know I'm ready to have one. IF i had one before, than, now, I should be in trouble.
2007-01-23 20:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by jalelw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hormones perhaps??
2007-01-23 20:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋