ok me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years i want him to propose we HAVE talked about getting married we do all the time we´v talked about kids everyone wants us to get married but hes just NOT popping the question his friends have told me on MANY MANY occosions that he wants to ask me and belive me i´v hinted and waited im sick of waiting now and im not gunna do it because its taken him so long.... whats a good way to hint but not so obvious...
help would be greatly appreciated
2007-01-23 12:17:10 · 14 answers · asked by Day Dreamer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just assume he has proposed already ! I am serious, show him the ring you want, ask him when you can two can go pick it out. Maybe set up a date you want to get engaged on like Valentines Day then try your hardest to lead him along. Take the pressure off him, make it fun and light hearted. I showed my boyriend who had told me he wanted to marry me many times throughout our four years of dating the ring I wanted. He just wouldn'y pop the qustion. We purchased it together and then we decided to tell our family at Christmas we were engaged. He never actually "popped" the question but he had already told me many times before he wanted to marry me, I just got the ball rolling. I think a lot of men procrastinate and are just scared of all the expectations of "popping the question". Why not take the pressure off him and just make it a thing you two do together. You don't have to have the most romantic/original engagement story, you just need to have a good partner who wants to be with you to have a good marriage - don't worry about the whole traditional proposal thing. Have fun and Good Luck !!!
2007-01-23 12:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt asked after 5 years maybe he is afraid of commitment. Does he have a good job? Can he afford to buy you a ring. I was married last weekend after 15 years divorced. I never remarried out of pride and not being able to afford a ring. I finally bought a ring and she said yes. If you are impatient, dont beat around the bush with a hint. You have enough time in this relationship and should know him by now. Just ask when the two of you are going to get married. If it is important to you to marry him, then tell him just how important it is. If he doesnt respect your feelings then you should ask yourself if you should be spending the rest of your life with someone like this.
2007-01-23 12:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by jake622003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rather some the human beings on indexed below are immature youthful ones. they're only being propose because they're bored or experience like being idiots. others are in a hurry to get quick factors or at the same time as threatened through an sensible question experience the want to attack with profanity. thank god they are going to be in college quickly. some are lower back in college already! for sure some will nonetheless go away nasty comments after college or worse yet, FROM college. purely ignore concerning the dumb ones and document the acute situations.
2016-10-16 00:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry him.
Call me a pessimist, but the dynamic you've just outlined spells doom for your marriage to me. You're going to be unhappy because of something, and then get fed up and leave because you don't want to tackle relationship problems directly, and he'll be blindsided.
Empower yourself woman! You want to marry him? Here's a thought, ASK! Why should you get all the advantages of sexual equality and none of the burdens? If you really love him, let him go, and let him (and you) deal with the pain of losing a longtime girlfriend/boyfriend in lieu of the pain of being divorced at a later date.
Failing that, tell him you want to spend your life with him. The worst he could say is "no."
2007-01-23 12:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him yourself. If your just going to be stubborn and won't do it, ask him what his problem is. If he won't commit than break-up and find someone else. The more you pressure him, the less likely he will do it. Sounds like you already have done the obvious, maybe he's not asking for being sick of being hounded about it. Whatever happens, good luck.
2007-01-23 12:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter? you said "im not gunna do it because its taken him so long.."
So break up and find someone else. Otherwise, we don't want to hear your immature emotional tripe.
The best way, is to tell him to go on Yahoo Answers, go to the "marriage and divorce section" and have him ask the question "how do i propose to my gf and when?"
and we can tell him
2007-01-23 12:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So propose to him. he may think you're kidding and laugh at him, but if you produce a wedding band for him, he may just get serious.
Also, just another thought, Valentine's Day is coming up, maybe he's waiting until then!
2007-01-23 12:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much pressure might scare him off , he will ask when he is good and ready if u cant wait then u might as well leave from now
2007-01-23 12:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL, LAY OFF THE POP: YOU SOUND LIKE YOU'RE ALL OF ABOUT 14 YEARS OLD HOPPED UP ON WOO HOOS.
IF YOU ARE TIRED OF WAITING, THEN START LOOKING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. MAYBE HE'S NOT READY. OR MAYBE HE DOESN'T WANT TO RUSH INTO ANYTHING. OR MAYBE HE WANTS TO DO SOME SPECIFIC THINGS IN LIFE BEFORE HE SETTLES DOWN.
DON'T PUSH HIM. IF YOU PUSH HIM, YOU'LL LOSE HIM.
2007-01-23 12:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by KAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the 2000's; ask him instead of waiting!
2007-01-23 12:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋