My boyfriend is divorced and has a son. I completely agree and in favor that he pays child suport. But I'll be honest with you it's very high. We live in the state of California. We are planning to buy a house and start a family of our own. But he is in debt and after he pays all his credit cards and childsupport, he is only left with $200. I'm really concerned. Like I said, I'm in favor that he helps his son and that he pays child support, but where does that leave my boyfriend and I and our new family. Do you think the court will re-evaluate it and lower his payments once we have a family. Let's be honest, there is no way he can support his son and new family. Yes, I work and I'll be contributing but it takes two to make it.
2007-01-23 12:13:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, sorry. The child he has with his ex is entitled to be supported in the same way you want your future children supported. Perhaps he should get rid of his credit card debt, and yes, that will be easier to do than convince a judge that he can't afford to pay the amount of child support thay has been set. The only way that this can be changed is if his ex agrees with a decrease or if there have been significant changes in the financial status of either party. And no, remarriage and new children don't count as a change in financial status.
2007-01-23 12:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by nursejen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, in your case, no. Youre actually the innocent victim in something that happened before you met him, but never the less are suffering the consequences. He will have to pay the support til his son has outlived the age requiremnts in the divorce decree. The courts will lower child support payments under very certain cases and restarting a new family isnt one of them. The courts look at that it hasnt gotten any cheaper to raise his son so he will continue to pay. The judge knows this most of the time causes hardships in lives but are bound by oath and duty to uphold the written laws of the state. All the judges care about is that the monthly support payments are made on time. Sorry I wish I had a better answer for you but all I can do is explain the law to you. Wish you the best of luck with your new family
2007-01-23 12:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can only be lowered if the income the one paying child support lowers... The court or judge decides on this anyway. If you marry him they may look at both of your incomes and the support may go up instead of lower. He chose to have the child and to have credit cards... These were his choice not yours. He has to live with the decisions and choices he has made and work through it. I hope you can understand what I am saying here. It is his duty to pay child support and pay off his bills... He may have to go to credit counseling and get help for his finances. He chose to sleep with her and make the child so why should the mom have to do it all???? He needs to step up to the plate and be a dad... Does he even see his child and spend time with him? Remember he had his child before you met you and is wanting to start a new life and family with you.
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2007-01-23 12:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way it can be lowered is if he has a reduction in pay. His choice of wanting to start a new family isn't taken into account, nor should it be allowed. The child shouldn't suffer for the parents desires.
2007-01-23 12:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by wintle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck the child support. Tell him to stop paying it and move out of state. Work on a cash basis only. If women choose to have a baby, they should have to pay for it.
2007-01-23 12:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes it can be lowered, but he'll have to show proof that its hard for him to survive
2007-01-23 12:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋