heres the story.ive been with my boyfriend for 15 months today and im thinking about valentines day. thing is,my boyfriend never disappointed me with anything, including gifts until this christmas.it was so disappointing to see him wearing what i bought him for christmas on christmas eve, when he came to my house, and him with nothing for me. it was like any other day. he said he didnt have money and that i should understand.so i did an that wasnt wat got me mad.its the fact that he lied,that i was getting my gift next week.he said that my christmas gift will not be my valetines day gift that that ill get it b4 and then when the week came he said i wasnt getting anything because h didnt have money and it got me mad because he didnt plan ahead,he knew the holidays were coming up and everything and did nothing about it.so while i spent over 100$on him, i never got anythin until this day.he says my valetines gift will be big.what should i get him?what if it happens again?what should i do?
2007-01-23 12:11:07 · 6 answers · asked by Jessie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
well times can be hard and maybe he didnt have the money... maybe you should be happy you got him something for christmas and made him happy... if thats your love and you do in fact love him then there should of been nothing wrong with the fact that he didnt get you nothing... him lying is another story but then again times are hard and money can be a tight situation at times... my advice to you is yeahh if he's your boyfriend you cant neglect valentines day so get him what ever it was you were gonna get him... if he dont get you nothing, its on you to determine wether he didnt get you nothing on purpose or like i said times are hard... but be sure to think out everything before you react cause you never how he's gonna act when he hears you... and if your wrong you might just mess everything up... but the choice is on you!!!
Robbie
2007-01-23 12:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told once that many questions are really statements. Pay close attention to what you've already said and this is the most important point. You said "im hurt by it cause he didnt think about me".... Leave off the question mark... That says alot. Not the one or two days out of a year when you're expecting to be given something but the days in between... If you're left feeling like the person didn't think about you and didn't consider your feelings and their response is "you should understand"... the problem isn't whether or not they had the money, it's did they think about you. Not all gifts cost money....
2007-01-23 14:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by silentdream_zds 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is drop the looser,he doesn't care about you.When you gave him his gift, he should have told you that he couldn't except it.Since you probably will not give him up, then let him see what it feels like to receive **** for Valentines.I bet you a donut, you will only get another promise from him.Some people only think of themselves, they do not change--trade him in while you're young enough to get a good guy.....
2007-01-24 03:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you saying, that in three or four months, he can not save up a few dollars to buy you a nice candle or a beautiful rose or something else that you might like... he doesn't have to spend alot to show that he cares............been there done that....I'm alot older than you are honey...... you deserve someone who will care for you and be sensitive to your needs, the way that you are to him...... the truth is....you just aren't important enough for him to bother with........I know it hurts.......but I'm sure, if you really think about it, he has bought himself a thing or two or one of his buddies something in the past few months........ a six pack? something special to eat? out with friends? come on hun...get a reality check while you still have your dignity
and above all.....PLEASE don't buy this guy anything else...he deserves no additional tokens to show, that you care for him, and are willing to bend over backward to kiss his....ars....as he never will reciprocate if he doesn't have to.......he's just that way, some guys (and gals) are...and that's just the way it is........INCONSIDERATE.. "because when they find someone who is willing to treat them like you do, and are willing to expect nothing in return, they can be."
2007-01-23 12:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by amber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just get him something small and chaep candy or something like that. i believe he is using you though i could be wrong but i dont care . he should have at least got you something small for christmas since he didnt get you anything i wouldnt get him anything other then something small or else you might just be putting out your money for him to show up empty handed again. save your money and see what he shows up with this time...
2007-01-23 16:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by loveinit2345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should get him something lil and maybe something big in the mean time, until your sure that your going to get something.
2007-01-23 13:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋