tell my partner i like to crossdress (i'm not gay,it just feels good ), and what do you think about crossdressing, and how would you react if your partner revealed this to you ?
2007-01-23 11:48:44 · 15 answers · asked by richtom 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
If you trust your partner, I would sit her down and tell her...explain to her that you just like women's clothes, and relate it in a way that is fun (like shopping!).
I myself wouldnt have any issue with it at all. I say this because it is part of who makes a person who they are, and if you care about the person, you care for the good bad and the unique
2007-01-23 11:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by bluebettalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test the waters first - try to brush the subject while out with your partner by saying something along the lines of "I'm sure that was a guy dressed as a girl" (or the other way around. The reaction from your partner will give you a hint. This can also be the opening to a quick discussion that can lead o you knowing more about how your partner feels. Start by saying "why would someone want to dress like that?"
That is the way I started with my wife and now I get to dress and have fun with her on a regular basis ;-)
2007-01-24 04:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sabrina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a girl, but I can tell you how its done. First of all you can bet that your partner isn't going to be expecting this, and she isn't going to like it... However, you may be able to get her to listen, to be sympathetic and even a little helpful.
You wait for a good opportunity. Like a TV ad about "Hairspray" the movie coming up where John Travolta plans the part of a fat woman. Then you ask your partner what does she think of cross-dressers? She'll say something negative... You may point out that most are heterosexual with normal lives otherwise. Then ask, has she even knows anyone who cross-dresses? She probably has and has never known it.
Point out that most cross-dressers aren't drag queens, most cross-dressers are very discreet, and afraid of being outted. They can be very good conservative people too. By this time she may suspect that you know too much.
Then you'll have the opening to tell her your deepest most personal secret... one that you've never spoken to anyone, ever.. Once she knows she will be a bit afraid to find out what comes next... Do nothing. Let her be comfortable knowing you're not dangerous. When the conversation comes up again point out that you're not interested in wearing her clothes, only your own. You're not interesting in scaring people. You're not going to make anyone do anything they're not comfortable doing. You can make compromises with your cross-dressing.. She should have nothing to fear.
2007-01-24 14:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, ten to one she's probably not going to take it well, but I'll give you 60/40 odds she'll be okay with it once she gets used to the idea. Just don't wear her clothes. Honestly, I don't really know how I'd react. I'd probably be pissed, having had issues with a previous boyfriend (didn't involve crossdressing, but it did involve another man, and not with me).
2007-01-24 00:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by spunk113 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm well i dont reely crossdress but sometimes i wear boy sweat pants umm doesnt your partner already know you crossdress i mean if u c him everyday or at least most of the time. if some1 told me that they crossdressed i would probably just say OK and see how things go.
i hope i helped =]
2007-01-23 19:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh i love to crossdress sometimes!! I think it's fun. My partner would probably think I'm quite kinky or something. If my partner did that, I would be a little bit shocked.
2007-01-23 19:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Asian_Bebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, if my partner told me that I'm not sure how easy it would be to hear. but I'd say just tell her ultimately your girlfriend needs to know the real u and if that's cross dressing then so be it.
2007-01-23 19:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the worst case senario and expect that to happen.. So whatever her reaction is it won't be as bad as expected.. If my husband told me he liked to cross dress, I'd be STOCKED! I'd love to dress him, but I'd keep a close eye on my things to make sure they didn't stretch.. And if she does flip out then things weren't meant to be.. I know typical answer, but true!
2007-01-23 20:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by dork_mastr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how long you have been with them. would be a shock if you have been with someone for a long time as you probably thought you knew them but in a fairly new relationship it shouldnt be a problem. you should be able to be honest in a relationship or there is no point in being together.
2007-01-23 19:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would freak out at first, but i would learn to accept it. just give her some time. just have a heart to heart, to let her know that this is something serious. crossdresssing is fine with me, i can accept it. but will your girlfriend feel that way? i suggest watching the movie Rent with her, it really will change the way she thinks about it.
2007-01-23 19:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by tal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋