and he said he was sorry for how he spoke to me and then added he just didn't give a f*** about how i feel. that pissed me off and i didn't leave the room that he wanted me to leave and i ended up throwin a folder of important info across the room. he then packed up his stuff and took out a lot of money to pay fo a hotel. but the money that he has taken out was supposed to go towards bills. i have no idea how to handle this when he gets back. what should i do?
2007-01-23 11:34:51 · 8 answers · asked by go2hellas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is in a lot of pain at the moment. i am pmsing and take rude speaking to me very personally at this time of the month. he says he doesn't care about the money because his credit is messed up
2007-01-23 11:49:38 · update #1
i told him how i felt about him speaking rudely to me yet he still said he didn't care about how i felt because he was in pain even tho i have been like a servent to him. he has a good friend he speaks to every single day and he speaks nicely to him all the time.
2007-01-23 11:51:14 · update #2
I would try & find out why your husband is feeling that way toward you & go from there....don't be like a lot of people & assume he's stormed out to pay for a hotel that you can both barely afford over a silly little disagreement...
I'm not saying he felt that way toward you because of something you've done by the way, but this is deeper than it appears on the surface. It could be one of many reasons....it could be stress at work...or it could be......
You'll need to get to the bottom of this Hun & you won't do that by shouting at each other I'm afraid.
Good luck!
2007-01-23 11:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people are fighting, there can be no discussion until both sides are ready to talk. Cool head prevail. When he comes back, tell him that you would like to sit down and talk to him when he is ready to talk since you have much to say that is serious. Once, he is ready to sit down and talk, tell him each of you will take 15 minutes to talk without the other interrupting. No matter what, the other cannot interrupt and make that clear. You also need to be clear about that and not do it either. Communication is essential in any marriage. Couples have to learn how to communicate and listen to each other. Tell him how you feel. Don't, however, accuse him or belittle him or put him down. Have him tell you what he thinks you had said to him. This will validate to you that he actually listened to you. Next, he will do the same thing that you had done for the 15 minutes. It is very important to bring out your points and tell him what really concerns you and how it made you feel when. If at anytime, he starts to get upset or you do, remind each other that you are both there to "work" on a problem. I wish you luck.
2007-01-23 19:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Weasel Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him since he took the money, he can figure out a way to pay the bills. Remind him that you never told him to take the money.
2007-01-23 19:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. http://www.ndvh.org/
2. if you don't have a job...get one. you need to have your own source of income.
3. withdraw what ever is left in the account. don't leave anything for him to withdraw cause you need that money for bills
4. you need to have your own account in your own name. cause i'm sure that he has his own in his own name.
5. you need to make a copy of every single important document for your sake. and leave the originals.
6. get back in touch with your friends and family. if a man wants to drive a wedge between a person and his or her friends then he is not worth spending time on
7. once you have your job...get a place of your own
2007-01-23 19:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has been disrespectful to u and it has upset u, understandable. got to have a plan if he doesn't return. upsets happen he should have talked it out, seems as if he really doesn't care anymore, take the rest of the money out in case it gets ugly and file for divorce if u think he isn't coming back.
2007-01-23 19:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are PMSing? Do you know what PMS stands for - Pack My Suitcase. Apparently this applies to your husband as well.
2007-01-23 19:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him, it takes two to argue, pray for him....prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives....God bless ya
2007-01-23 19:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this argument is workable -- why did he leave?
2007-01-23 19:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋