I'd really like to hear from some people who have had affairs and followed through on to a more permanent relationship. Do they work or are they doomed right from the start. People who have been here must have truely believed they would work, if they failed why?
2007-01-23 10:46:09 · 13 answers · asked by Monique M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it never did for me... All i felt was guily and anger and the pleasure was only temporary and not worth the pain it caused in the long run.... It was not worth it for me and it was not good. I feel that because they are wrong that they are doomed from the start. I think the main reason they dont work out is because we dont enter an affair for a right reason... It is usually out of pain or hurt and to get revenge and these are not the right reasons at all. It is also entered into out of sefishness usually.
2007-01-23 11:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is total speculation on my part. You are in, or are considering, an affair. I have no doubt there are a few good relationships out there that started as an affair. But by far the majority don't. Think about it. If you are having an affair you are already lying or breaking your promises. And so is the person with whom you are having the affair. Is that really the kind of person you want to build a real life with? Stop the affair. It may be fun for a while, but it does not lead to anything good at least 98% of the time.
2007-01-23 10:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience both as a party to an affair and also as a marriage counselor for over 25 years. 90% of all relationships/marriages that result from an affair fail within 3 years. It's sad but true.
2007-01-23 10:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An affair is what it is, a fling. It will never be a relationship.
During the affair you just see the good side of a person or what
you want to see, when you spend more time with that person
you will ask yourself what did I see in her/him. In time the real person will surface. If your having an affair its because something is missing, my advice is just enjoy the cake, no need to complicate it more.
2007-01-23 12:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by DoubleR815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known of a couple of instances in which relationships that started out as affairs turned into long-term, very good relationships. So, at least according to what I've seen, SOMETIMES good, long-term relationships can come out of affairs.
2007-01-23 10:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by zoni_tonya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I wouldn't trust any man or woman that left their spouse via affair. If they cheated on their spouse, they would probably do it again.
I don't have the other answers. There are some that have probably worked, but I would think that most don't.
2007-01-23 10:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by rugbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are great but they usually end the same way they started, with an affair.
2007-01-23 10:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by SUPERMAN 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know someone that cheated on her husband, then divorced and married the man she was cheating with and they have been together for 19 yrs.They never had any major problems and from what I see both are faithful. Its possible but very rare.
2007-01-23 11:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they work out?then it was meant for the two illiterate degenerates to be together, that way they don't have to worry about which one is considered DUMB and which one is actually DUMB!
Its so obvious They Fail because their STUPID!
2007-01-23 11:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Skinz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SOMe have failed because one of you'll has this thought on your mind always, "Well he she cheated on his/her spuose to get with me how do I know they won't do it again?" That's the million dollars questions that always creat doubts. SO be carefull when you into one.
2007-01-23 10:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋