Is there anything you can do to help--or hurt the process?
2007-01-23 10:37:13 · 14 answers · asked by JD 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think the best way is to just let a person know that you are not judgmental. If you do not present yourself as a person who would judge them as a bad person then when they are ready, they will reveal it.
It is never good idea to force an individual to "reveal themselves". It might be the person is not ready to admit their feelings to themselves let alone others.
2007-01-23 11:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well as far as helping them come out to themselves, I wouldn't actually force them to do so because that would do more harm than good. Provided he or she has actually talked about the issue with you before, I would say something along the lines of "Look, I know that you're trying to figure out whether you're gay/lesbian/bisexual (whatever the case may be). I just want to know that when you're ready to come out I'm here for you."
After he or she does so to themselves and you, you can both take the next phase and join a GLBT group. This can be either a GSA, PFLAG, or another sort of GLBT group in your area.
Hope this helps.
2007-01-23 14:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Megosophy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to test the water, some may not choose to come out, while others will be relieved. Make sure that it isn't a bad day for the person and try to give hint. Just make sure that person is comfortable. Trying to force out the feeling may hurt as some choose to remain in closet. No matter how prepared you are, if you straight, you still can' help feeling suprised. Or if you're gay, you maybe be dissapointed if he/she isn't, just be reminded this is about him/her.
2007-01-30 20:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by flying_phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure the conversation is right, but suggest that some people are different, and that sometimes you have to look deep within yourself to find out who you really are.
there may be a reason that the person is not coming out though; perhaps they are feeling a religious contradiction, or they are afraid of the social stigmas. recomend some good reading that will help them to come to terms with things.
2007-01-27 17:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Josh T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. Give hints to see if they are. Or just ask?
To hurt the process?
Maybe if you told everyone they were when they weren't? Or they were actually g/l/b/t instead of having them open up themselves?
2007-01-23 10:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, really, you don't need to help them come out to themselves, but to others (or society).
About all you can do is tell them supportive stories about how much easier your life is when you live openly, and exactly as God made you.
Oh, and tell them to ignore bitter, bigoted, ignorant homophobes. I think you know the kind I mean. They only exist to trash others and spread hate - doing nothing good for any other human.
2007-01-23 11:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave them alone.
Contrary to popular Gay belief not everyone is a closet gay.
Just because a woman has a poor attitude does not make her a lesbian and just because a man is iffeminate does not make him gay.
The gay community really needs to take a pill and back off the whole gay identity thing.
It's just sexual 'orientation' leave them alone to find self on their own.
We do not celebrate national hetero day. The government does not recognize national love your pet month so why the big hubbub over gayness?
The day we have threesome luncheons is the day I feel equal rights is duly noted.
Until then we need to explore sexuality without the unsolicited bombard from gay agendas.
2007-01-23 10:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leave them alone and they will get there when they are good & ready,
All you have to do is support them and don't put any extra pressure on them.
We all come out when we want too, not when we are forced too.
2007-01-23 10:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let thm talk to you and sort their feelings out.. i just came out as a bisexual and a transgenderist.. i'm still trying to decide what i want to do with my life.. but i just needed friends to talk to and listen to me.. be supporting and loving and don't try to rush them or pressure them into anything. coming out is a natural process and it is a very scary process..
2007-01-23 10:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUPPORT! Be open, accepting. Don't force the issue at all. Basically ignore it unless the other person brings it up, then - if you do - show you care about them no matter who they are.
2007-01-30 04:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by FTW 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋