I have always had an awkward sex life. I was pretty much molested when I was a kid by a classmate. I've been confused about my sexuality lately. I have a gf I find very attractive, but lately things have been weird cos images of men, gay and straight, have been popping up in my head. Men I wouldn't even consider attractive. Friends of mine even. I feel like all the porn I've watched has invaded my mind and made me sexualize everything and everyone. It is disturbing my day to day thought process. Does anyone know any books or practices I can try to get these thoughts out of my head?
2007-01-23 10:27:18 · 14 answers · asked by jiggabot 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To Jens-Girl, I hate to tell you this, but kid on kid molestation happens all the time. Usually one is slightly older or holds a higher social position then the other. In cases like these, the molesting kid was usually molested himself.
Ok now for your question. One, stop watching porn if you still are.
Two, seek psychotherapy.
Three, try thinking about other things even if it takes you awhile longer to have an orgasim, or hold out as long as you can.
Really at this point therapy is the only answer. You might not be as messed up as you think you are.
2007-01-23 10:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by fifimsp1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a good idea to first talk with your physician, if you have one. A physician will be able to guide you in the right direction, on if you just need therapy or a good psychologist or psychiatrist. Porn addiction can be some bad stuff, and it really screws up your head when it comes to dex, no matter if a person is gay or straight. Not all porn addict have been molested in their life. Porn either puts the thoughts there in the first place or it rekindles old images of sexual abuse. Hey, it is going to take some time. Also, call your local mental health office that is operated by the heath department.
2007-01-23 10:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor.
It is an addiction like any other.
But it sounds to me like you may be in denial.
If you can get to a place where you can tell yourself that it is okay for you to be sexually stimulated by either sex then this obsession may subside. See people as people and not sex objects. Allow people to touch your heart and start connecting with real people in the real world. Lay off the porn. I used to watch it but I tended to collect clips for the hilarious dialog as well as the finding certain women attractive. It still makes me laugh today but it seems to have caused you a bit of a sensory overload and is serving to confuse you rather than granting you release.
You may be bi-sexual and that's okay.
You're girlfriend may not be cool with it so keep it under raps for the time being until you get things a little more figured out.
It all comes down to the fact that sex is just sex. An orgasm is just an orgasm. It doesn't have to be a life or death question.
So take it easy on yourself.
2007-01-23 16:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by octopussy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, an observation: having sex with a classmate is what used to be called playing doctor and how kids found out what sex was all about. It only became "molestation" and a criminal offense when society became hysterical and overly Puritanical in recent years. It's a normal, healthy activity in kids just the same.
The porn may be irrelevant. You may be simply bisexual. Or gay. Men don't have to be swimming suit models to turn you on if you're gay. My neighbor has a pot belly, but the prettiest eyes I've ever seen on an adult man. I know a young guy that has all kinds of unattractive features, but he turns me on whenever I'm near him. The porn probably just triggered what was already there. Books can't help you with that. But a counselor or psychologist can help you figure yourself out.
2007-01-23 10:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some good old fashioned thearapy. Not watching porn will also help get it out of your system. It's like a drug,the more ya watch,the more ya want to watch.I'd say you're bi,because more or less the same thing happened to me,the visions I mean. Still have them,to a lesser degree,cause I"m olllllllld now,lol.
2007-01-23 13:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm. I don't want to alarm you, but that's a typical symptom of OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
There are some tests avaiable on the net, try them out and if you get a signifcant score, consider seeking professional help.
2007-01-23 10:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by scavenger_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK-Well I don't know if you are for real or faking us out. I kinda find it hard to belive that you got molested by a little kid........Anyhow-if you are for real,then porn should not be affecting your life. It's normal. I think u are discovering that you are gay or bi and don't know how to take it. I hope you figure everything out. If all else fails go see a counsler.
2007-01-23 10:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop watching porn. That's a start. It actually gets it out of your mind.
Second, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay or bi, if you are one of those. If you think there's something really wrong with you, see a psychologist.
2007-01-23 10:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Just relax and go with the flow, if you think it is the porn stop watching it. You maybe reading too much into things.
2007-01-23 18:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well it seems to me that you are just really horny. weather or not thats cuz of the porn i dont know i would say u look at alot of porn because you are really horny. and so, being horny, going through life you sexualize everything.
2007-01-23 14:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋