Do you think that would be a good arrangement, especially since I enjoy the sex and I would not have to go out looking for it all the time?
2007-01-23 10:23:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, not a terrific idea. An ex is an ex for a reason.
Your head might get messed up, with confused feelings. Others have tried this and most agree that a clean break is the best thing. Not that you can't be friends (if you can handle that) but the emotional stuff could play a number on your head, even if you try to keep it just to hot sex. And then the drama could start up again. It sounds like you could end up being used, with bad feelings later on.
Besides, if you broke up, why should you limit yourself when there could be someone else who would be good for you?
2007-01-23 11:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by SB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't hold onto any delusions that you two may get back together, the occasional romp shouldn't hurt. If it's an "all the time" thing though, it could definitely hinder you finding someone who wants to love you AND have sex.
Consider this as well: how will you feel if you two continue having sex and one day he announces he's met someone? How will you deal with it?
My advice is if you can emotionally detach yourself from the sex then go for it. Othewise, keep it strictly platonic.
2007-01-23 10:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can live with a relationship based upon sex and you get what you want out of it, go for it. But, I think you will find it to be an empty relationship in the future.
2007-01-23 10:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you still have feelings for him then i dont think its a good idea. youll still fall in love and he wont feel the same way about you. if you dont have feelings for him then i guess it might be alright. but you could still grow to have feelings again or maybe if you see him with another man get jealous. i wouldnt have sex with him if he broke up with you. tell him if he wants you then he has to have all of you.
2007-01-23 11:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're over the guy that you were dating though?
Wouldn't you feel abit gross after awhile just using eachother after a broken relationship?
But, if you think you can handle the emotional problems than why not?
2007-01-23 10:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide if this is right for you or not. if you are able to get over your feelings and still want casual sex, then i suppose it's ok.. but chances are he will be sleeping with others, so practice safe sex if you do..
personally, if someone dumped me but says they still wanted to use me for sex, i'd tell them to take a hike! if i'm not good enough for love, then they ain't gonna be touchin' my body!
2007-01-23 10:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Only if its truly casual sex with no relationship ties.
Can go horribly wrong with lots of heartache
2007-01-23 10:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never like these situations...once you break up with someone, that should be it. My view, if you're still having sex, why not just be together?
2007-01-23 12:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you stand to get emotionally hurt by this arrangement? If so, drop him.
2007-01-23 10:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. That's called being used.
2007-01-23 10:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋