I hate the term partner used to describe a gay persons mate/bf/gf/lover. To me a partner is a person you play tennis with or do lab work with. It feels very strange and clinical to describe your lover as your "partner"
Am I the only one that feels this way about that term?
2007-01-23 10:07:38 · 15 answers · asked by nappeeone 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I couldn't agree with you more. The word is ridiculous. It takes sexuality out of a sexual relationship. It's hiding the fact that two boys or two girls enjoy eachothers' company enough that they f***k on a regular basis, just like straight couples. I don't mean to be crude, but give me a break. "Partner?" That's as bad as calling your boy/girlfriend your "associate" or "collaborator" or "affiliate" or "colleague." A straight person must have come up with this term, or perhaps a gay person with his or her head in a vise. Ya know, I can't stand the term "significant other" either. What the hell is that supposed to mean anyway.
2007-01-23 11:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kendall 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't like the term "lover." I mean,if a person's straight,they don't go around announcing to people this is my "lover." LOL,imagine how that'd sound at little Emily's new elementary school PTO meeting>? I just say my friend,nobody needs to know what I do in the bedroom.....
2007-01-23 14:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I definitely agree with you. If I'm dating a guy, I call him my boyfriend, not my partner. If I ended up getting married to him, or even a civil union, I would call him my husband. I would never call someone my partner.
2007-01-23 10:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. If they are dating, then it should be boyfriend or girlfriend, and if they are married, husband or wife. I guess the husband/wife thing might be too radical for some to handle. Using the term partner singles us out. When will people realize that we equal to heterosexuals?
2007-01-23 10:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Hmmm... 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like Partner either. It sounds like the old west or a business arraingement. I call my partner my SO (significant other).
2007-01-23 10:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES
The words Husband or Wife are best for committed relationships, even in places where the govt doesn't recognize reality.
2007-01-23 10:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah i dont like the term partner ether i prefer boyfriend or girlfriend
2007-01-23 15:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by joe s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, nothing wrong with boyfriend/girlfriend labels for same sex um partners.. hehe
and yes, i love tennis.. anytime you wanna play, let me know!
2007-01-23 10:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love the term myself. It represents equality in our relationship, unlike lover, which denotes a relationship based upon sex.
2007-01-23 10:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
THANK YOU!!! I thought no one else was with me on this word. I hate it. And here in california it seems like EVERYone uses it because its "politically correct". I hate it. I call my girlfriend MY GIRLFRIEND because thats what she is! Partner seems so...so...impersonal & almost childish.
2007-01-23 10:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋