Would you date person that was not out? Would you be ok with keeping your realtionship secret in front of that persons family and friends? Would you put up with this for long?
2007-01-23 09:51:01 · 15 answers · asked by nappeeone 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes I would. My girlfriend did that for me and it was very kind of her. I knew I was gay but just wasn't ready to come out to my parents. Some three months later I did though.
I think I just needed that gentle shove and to be sure I was heading in the right direction. I think if one person can do that and help someone out then why can't I
2007-01-23 10:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just had that conversation yesterday with a really beautiful man I was considering dating.
He is a professional dancer and not out.....I can ALMOST (not quite) accept a closeted teacher, or NASCAR driver....but a freaking dancer?
So the short answer is no I wouldn't date someone who isn't out....at least to their family and friends......I will not spend Christmas alone or be introduced as a roommate or friend.
2007-01-23 23:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would DEPEND on their REASON for not being out. If it was a realistic reason, then yes, I would have to accept it IF I loved that person. Otherwise NO, simply because I don't believe living a lie. Besides, my 1/2 of the relationship would be OUT and my family would know and accept and that would help alot.
So, it would depend on the reason!
2007-01-23 17:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ACtually,yes I would,but I'm bi. Most of the women I've dated have all been out,so,I can't imagine dating someone who wasn't. But I myself think it's nobody's business but my own,I don't like pda much,even if I'm with a man,don't think anything other than holding hands is ok in public
2007-01-23 22:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be able to date someone who wasn't openly gay/bi around their friends. I don't really believe dating is the parents' business personally, so I would be ok with them hiding it fro their parents, as long as it didn't make them depressed. Negativity is never attractive. However, I'm not sure they would date, because I am so openly effeminate that it would be hard for their parents not to know they were dating me if their parents ever met me.
2007-01-23 18:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but would try to help both of us move towards a healthier relationship including coming out in the future.
2007-01-23 18:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would, simply b/c I am not completely out myself. When I say that I mean I am not out to my parents but my friends and one of my brothers already know and if my other two brothers lived in the same state as me they would also know.
2007-01-24 14:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the person. I've been down that path once. I can't swear I'd never do it again, but it wasn't fun the first time.
2007-01-23 17:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i would not. I've already been there & done that and i was miserable! In this stage of my life, I would only date women who were out and completely comfortable with themselves and her sexuality.
2007-01-23 17:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to what extent of a relationship........
at the beginning yes
if the relationship goes further and develops then get em out
.... also depends on the family and there opinion on gays
2007-01-23 18:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋