I have a cousin who is one year older than me...he lives in NY and I live in Chicago...Well the last 2 recent trips my family went up to NY and I began to get mixed signals from my cousin...like he would flirt with me, he would always ask for me, and he would put his arm around my shoulder a lot...I havent brought this up to anyone because what if he doesnt like me and its all in my head...HELP does he like me or not?? and what should I do?
2007-01-23 09:49:28 · 43 answers · asked by ღIsrael's Mommyღ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Especially if your a very attractive girl, it's normal for a boy, especially someone who doesnt see you every day like a cousin to flirt with you. Try not to dwell on it too much, it's just a phase unless it gets more uncomfortable..then run
2007-01-23 09:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Peter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in Chicago and you live in NY...and you only see him during family trips, why do you have an issue with this? He could just really like you, think you are attractive and be affectionate...without crossing the line! Flirting and putting his arm around your shoulder, even a lot, is NOT crossing the line. Is there a problem with this? If he does cross the line, just tell him to step back without being an as* about it. It only becomes an issue if it gets ugly and apparently you are the only one, as I could tell that is starting to make it that way. Boundaries. It isn't weird....we dont see your situation and you could be making more of it than is needed.
2007-01-23 09:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my cosin are the same way, and i don't think there is anything. I mean what kind of cosins are u first or second it does depend, becuase further u r it might not seem that bad. Do u find your cosin attractive, then may be that;s why u take the signals in the kind of way. Well in my case it is totallly oposite my family thinks that something is going but really nothing is, its just we are very close and we look at each other like friends, and always hang out together.
2007-01-23 09:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Loco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the signs he had be showing you...he probably does like you. Next time you visit him make up an imaginary boyfriend you have back in Chicago. If he would ask for you go hide in the bathroom or something. If he asks why you have been avoiding him...tell him because he isn't really treating you like family. And if he puts his arm around you take it off...its ok to be a little harsh in these situstions.
2007-01-23 09:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by ☺Lisa☺ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you like him - or it would be a non-issue. Well I know this sounds sick but I have a friend that has a kissing cousin and well as long as you aren't trying to make babies, I think you are ok. It's not like he's your brother.
Now if it makes you uncomfortable, you just need to put it out to him that you love him as a cousin - but it would never go any further than that.
2007-01-23 09:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by John P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of guys go through a phase when they have mixed feelings about girls, even ones that are related to them. I wouldn't be worried. He's either being a real great cousin or he's gonna act like a dick and treat you terribly. He doesn't like you, but he may think youre cute. Don't worry.
2007-01-23 09:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Candi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he does something innapropriate - touching you in a not-family way or saying something to you that makes you feel uncomfortable tell him to stop or tell your mom/dad. You can also just choose to avoid him if you don't want to spend time with him alone. a fine choice to help avoid messy family drama. but if you feel comfortable enough with him or your parents, tell them, truth is always better.
2007-01-23 09:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure he likes you, you are his cousin. but also, he is comfortable with you. youre a girl, he is just testing the water. if he takes it too far then you should worry. but if its just a little flirting dont be too concerned. its normal.
2007-01-23 09:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be messin with your head just to annoy you like teenage boys do. Dont read to much into it if he's not being mean to you, and he still can talk to you normally i think you'll be fine.
good luck
2007-01-23 09:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by aime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would try to stay away from him for a while and see how he re-acts i mean if he keeps calling u doesn't mean that he likes u. He could be happy to see you. You should talk to your mom and dad or guardian or.... best friend about this
2007-01-23 09:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋