my husband's good friend has a birthday coming up in a month. his friend decided that he wants to go to key west with ONLY his guy friends(4 of them). he wants to rent a hotel and a boat, fish and drink, and so forth. for some reason when he told me about it, i went through the roof! i don't know why i exploded on him, but even though i apologized i am still upset about it. he said he doesnt want to go now because of how i feel, but now i feel guilty. i dont know why i feel so insecure about the whole situation. my birthday is right around that time period too and i really thought that everyone would want to do something together. his friend also has a girlfriend but i know he does act differently when she's there. i don't know how to stop feeling this way (is it a jealousy thing?), and i don't understand why it made me cry when i got off of the phone with him. i don't ever get upset when he normally just hangs out with the guys. does anyone have any suggestions?
2007-01-23 09:37:01 · 8 answers · asked by insidetherubix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to see things from the other side. What would he do if you told him you were going on a girls vacation somewhere. Sure you may have a bit of jealousy, but you know and trust him right? You already have apologized for blowing up at him, what more can you do? Maybe you got upset a little too easily, but your feeling weren't being attended to. Now that it is all out in the open let him make up his mind as to what is most important to him. Best wishes and good luck.
2007-01-24 12:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Gary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, If I was married I would be P/OED, that my other half did not have the decency to include me and was putting me second to her friends. I believe both should have their own friends to go out or to hang out with to break things up. But my wife would come first and taking her feelings in to consideration before make any plans or decisions. If it still bothered me and I was feeling the way you are It might be you do not trust the person. When he goes out with his friends you know he will be back in a couple of hours so that does not upset you Knowing he is close to home. Hope everything works out.
2007-01-23 11:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by ARENMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would react the same way. You're probably feeling rejected from being left out. I wouldn't want my husband to go away without me. His friend shouldn't put you in that predicament. I understand that guys need time to themselves, but why not just during the day. If everyone were invited, you could hang with the girls all day, while he hangs with the guys. That way you could both have a great vacation.
2007-01-23 09:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband have this time with his guy friends... When he is gone do things for you like shop and hang out with some of your girl friends. You may be insecure about the girl but she should not be going on the trip with the guys either.
2007-01-23 09:43:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a milestone big deal bday, i say let him go...but if your bday is a milestone (like decade themed) then it would feel good that he chose to stay home and celebrate you. i dont have the particulars so, just speculating a scenario.
Its always nice when your hubby is offered a tempting get away and he chooses to be home with you,not out of obligation or guilt,but because he truly wants to spend the weekend or allotted free time with you....your feelings are totally normal- I have a feeling most of us have felt the same way!
2007-01-23 10:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by justsayin... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a jealousy thing that he is going off with his friends instead of staying home with the family and it would be interfering with your birthday plans so that may be part of it as well.
2007-01-23 09:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him go ...us women will always bring it up in the future
2007-01-23 09:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-01-23 10:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋