I am a stay at home mom of 2 kids. My husband works full time and thinks that he shouldn't have to take turns getting up with the baby in the middle of the night. Also he does not clean, do laundry, dishes, or anything. Is it fair that just because he works and makes money that he shouldn't do anything around the house? Is everyone elses husbands like this? Would appreciate answers from men too!
2007-01-23 09:35:52 · 21 answers · asked by lovemykids 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think its a bad idea. We have a 6 month old and I love taking care of her no matter what time of the day it is. I drive truck and sometimes I take her to work with me, She seems to love it.....
2007-01-23 09:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Winter is here !!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether you breast feed, or bottle feed. I see his point in needing a good night's sleep to be functional at work, but then, when he gets home, he should DEFINITELY help out with the laundry, the cleaning, etc.
I stayed home once with my kids for a week while my wife was working, and trust me, taking care of them is a full time job that leaves NO time for cleaning or other household chores. I basically had one hour a day when they were both napping that I could use to straighten up a bit and clean up their dishes from feeding them...
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2007-01-23 17:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first husband was like this-very selfish. If you both were unselfish, you would use common sense. Should your husband get up in the middle of the night as much as you do-no, of course not. Should he help out once in awhile when its a very bad night and you are an absolute zombie-yes, he should. My second husband is wonderful. I only work PT ( we have a 6 month old) and he helps out on the weekends and lets me sleep. Never think that your current situation is the way its supposed to be.
2007-01-23 17:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. I am a stay at home mom and I still made my husband get up every once in a while to feed the baby.
2007-01-23 17:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by redheadedmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he has a full time job doesn't mean that he isn't still a parent,I would clarify that for him real quick.I bet your job is much harder than his he wouldn't last one week with two kids everyday and do all the housework.You need to tell him that he is still a father and whats he gonna tell his kids I can't help you with your homework or bath you,or play with you because I have a job.Bullsh#t I would let him know you aint gonna be a single parent just because he punches a timeclock.
2007-01-23 17:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u are really the house maid ,I understand that he does work a full time job but am sure he can get up and help out on a Friday night when he doesn't have work on Saturday ,as for house chores it should be a shared responsibility on you both .
2007-01-23 17:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is dead wrong on that one my wife stays at home and taking care of my 2 kids also but i always make it a point to be at home as fast as i can to help her taking care of 2 kids takes a lot of work and your husband should realize that,your job is a lot harder than your husband so he should help you out in any way he can,and he should thank you for a job well done instead of going home and just relax,he should be fair and my sympathy is on you
2007-01-23 17:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're Breast feeding he should be helping.A relationship is 50/50 all the way.I don't care who's working or stays home.If there are two ADULTS then there are four hands to do the work.
2007-01-23 22:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him stay home and take care of the kids and you work
2007-01-23 17:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he works a full time doesnt mean he cant do anything when he gets home. he defiantley should feed the baby + more.
2007-01-23 17:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋