the only time i'm not shy is when i'm rambling on about nonsense stuff with my friends and doing crazy antics....otherwise i will like never speak around people i don't know very well....but there's this person who i want to get to be friends with, but they're just as shy as me (except they don't do the occasional crazy things i do)...what can i do? everytime i finally break out of being shy for a while, my mind just goes blank and i have nothing to say...any advice is very appreciated
2007-01-23 09:13:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, a word of caution. Not to discourage you, but I am pretty shy myself and have a difficult time with other shy people. I was getting to be friends with someone when I ended up apparently scaring her away by opening up more. You're both shy so you should probably go easy. Start off with something non-threatening. Observe the person and see how s/he reacts, then you'll have a better idea of what makes the person feel comfortable.
2007-01-23 12:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also very shy. High School was a nightmare for me. I did like drama and that opened me up to more friends. My Dad told me to look around to see who is looking at me. It worked , Even though the girls I was looking at were the prettiest in the class . After listening to my Dad , I met a slew of girls that liked me. I liked them a whole lot more , because there was more to them. It opened a whole new world to me. Just be the best you , you can be. I'm sure people will come to you. Just smile and be approachable. Look people in the eye when you talk to them. Good luck
2016-05-24 01:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. Just go up to that person and introduce yourself. Try and start a convo. Talk about nonsense like you do with your other freinds. I don't think they'll mind. Just be you, and it will go well. Everytime casually talk to that person, and day after day it will become easier and you two will grow a freindship. That's my advice. I hope this might help, i know you said your shy, so just going up to a person probly would be hard for you. But, you shouldn't be scared...just be you. Good luck
2007-01-23 09:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Brookie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, it is possible.
just be like , "hey (person's name),, this English class is SO boring, eh?"..and it will progress from there. one conversation will lead on to another, and BAM! a friendly connection. =P..
just continue talking to them everyday, and saying hi. hanging out with them. don't be shy. they are probably more shy than you. since you are both shy, why don't you step up and make a friend? i'm sure by having lots in common, you will be awesome friends.!!
i used to be REALLY shy..like you don't understand.
then one day, this girl she was kind of an outsider..not a loser, she had friends, but she didn't fit in with me or the people of my generation.
but, we started talking. i realized she was completely opposite from me, but opposites attract, right? and i have realized she did/knew all these things i didn't. i found that interesting. so, that is how opposites attract.
she turned out to be a really good friend, and i always always hang out with her. she is awesome! she has opened my eyes, and made me more outgoing.
she is the best, i love her. =P.
2007-01-23 09:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by A Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u dont need to be shy just go up and talk to somebody and be nice and dont try to get in to to much just tell them ur namand stuff then start talking to them every day then you will have freand u have to be social dont be shy
i used to be like dat but know i am not
2007-01-23 09:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give them a compliment. thatll break the ice. theyll feel more welcome and open up to you. then u keep the conversation going. be like, "so did u watch the game yesterday?" or "did you understand question 5 we had for homework? i didnt get it" and just keep going on from there. talk about movies, sports, tv shows, people at school, classes, etc. good luck.
2007-01-23 09:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave stand up and and him/her if they want to go do something like play sports or go to the arcad and play games or talk about books whatever they are interested in and maybe they will start to open up
2007-01-23 09:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by cold skiing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to build up your confidence. you can do that by forcing yourself to talk to this other person - ask them to stop for a pop or do something after school. One person I know joined our group and got over her shyness by talking to us online and building our confidence that way but be careful of the sites you go to in order to talk to people.
2007-01-23 09:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am shy and cannot really tell a girl if she likes me or not!!!!
- sammy a shy boy....
Hey you have a problem wit that ....lol
2007-01-23 09:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sammyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of just like you, go talk to the person make small convos.
2007-01-23 09:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Krupkake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋