Im a younger gay guy, and over the weekend i had a one night stand with a guy who i have been attracted too for a long time. He is very attractive and has a nice personality as well. Im intrested in him as a boy friend but i have heard that hes not "one for relationships" i guess this is true because his attatude tword me hadnt changes at all...just casual friends....but, i really, almost painfully find myself in love with him........what do i need to do to get over him?????!??!?
2007-01-23 09:11:17 · 5 answers · asked by Jake M. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Meaningless sex usually leads to infatuation from one party.
You know that he is not interested in you the way that you are in him, I think that you really feel nothing more than an attraction for him.
Your best bet is to just hang out with different people and try to keep yourself busy so you don't dwell on him.
2007-01-23 09:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, totally know how you feel!! Actually, you'd probably be surprised just how many people know how you feel!!
Everyone experiences those "one night stands". Lucky for you he was hot! (**shudder** Mine were... don't ask...)
But, obviously, he was just after you for the sex. And, yes, it will be tough thinking "OMG!! He's so nice! He's so hot! I SOOOOO LOVE HIM!" But, it's no worse than falling for a really nice, really hot straight guy.
It will take time, but eventually you'll get over him and you'll realised what a b@stard he was.
OH: One final point. You HEARD he's "not one for relationships" or you KNOW it?? You might as well ask him. And then, if he does reject you, you'll have another reason to get over him.
Stay safe, don't get hurt.
xoxoxo
2007-01-23 09:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go out and sleep with a lot of people, or you could re-prioritize your life at the current time and become involved in other things that are of interest to you. I would go for the latter, myself.
2007-01-23 09:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by MaryCheneysAccessory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with him anymore! He's looking for a f*ck buddy and you want a relationship. If you continue, you'll just get hurt.
2007-01-23 10:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never get over him, sleep with as many guy's as you can and this will make him realize that you are one wild cat and he will soon be back begging.
2007-01-23 09:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋