ok i have about 8 best friends @ school. on each of their bdays i always remember & decorate their locker & give the a present & a hug ect. i came to school today (my bday) walk in & no1 says anything.... then i find out i have a detension which adds to how sad Im getting... so i start crying in class. my friend, Ireen looks over at me & says: desi, happy birthday... im so sorry i totally 4 got. well, so did all my other friends. my other friend, Vicky passes me a note saying happy birthday...sorry i dont have anything for you-di.& i even told her like 5 days b4 & she said i was over reacting & that ppl were bound to 4get cause it was after the weekend... EVEN THOUGH my other friend Ireen's bday which was in OCtober... was also on a monday.
am i over reacting?im not the type of girl who looks for alot of attention like some of my other friends. but is it really too much to ask to want a "happy birthday" from my BESTfriends... who i spend so much time & thought into theirs???
2007-01-23 09:07:23 · 25 answers · asked by Susanna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
so many answers! i read each and every one so far. that first one made me laugh and all the other ones like that.
i dono.... you see, my school is very small and theres only 30 girls in each grade, (and 30 boys) and these are the only girls i hang out with... the other girls are kinda... strange if ya know what i mean.... and the OTHER ones are very mean. so if i dump these ladies.... im a loner until Senior year!!! im very confused and i'm considering MOST of your KIND answers very carefully... but some of you are being kinda mean...
2007-01-23 14:36:37 · update #1
narrowed down ta 10 for best answer... you all have given really good advice.. well most of you (the ones who werent being very very mean.
2007-01-23 14:39:43 · update #2
thats life it happens
2007-01-23 09:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to not feel hurt when people "forget" you. And, you feel betrayed and let down by those you've counted on the most to help you celebrate your special day. It's also hard to realize that it probably wasn't personal and that there may have been some extenuating circumstances that helped this create a "memory gap". I have a birthday the day before Christmas....which, over the years, has either been minimized or totally forgotten. And, I also realize that I'm horrible about remembering birthdays too. So, solutions? Well, each year I plan a small gathering of close friends to celebrate my special day. And, that "day" might not be on my actual birthday. We might have brunch, or lunch or dinner, go to a movie, go to a spa, have a slumber party or what ever. The BIG thing is not to sit and feel miserable about this oversight. Plan something for yourself and include your buddies. And remember, the one thing you can count on is that you'll have another birthday next year too!!!
2007-01-23 09:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birthday’s are special, it reminds us to tell the person just how much they mean to us and how glad we are that they were born on this day. Sorry your friends forgot!
It really lets you know how much they value you, and that hurts. You also seem to be at a age where people tend to be very self orientated and although this is not an excuse it is an explanation. But that said you appear to be different, my advice is to find someone who thinks and feels like you do.
Happy Birthday, and I hope the next one brings with it more happiness than your heart can hold, you deserve it.
2007-01-23 09:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are not your real friends. This happened to me on my past bday about a month ago and my best friend Bobby didn't even call me to wish me a happy bday! It sucks because I never forget his bday and always call him on that day! Oh well I guess some people are just plain cold. Try to get over this and also next time pretend you forgot their bday too! What matters is that your family doesn't forget your bday! If they do then you do have a problem! Good Luck and remember not to cry on your bday because its bad luck.
2007-01-23 09:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might not realize this but every person has a different gift. What I mean is that like you, you remember people's b-day and give them gifts. However, your friends are different. Instead of a gift they would give a card or just say Happy b-day or email you. Your friends didn't realize that it means the whole to you if they did something special for you. I'm like you I like give gifts and sending them cards on my friends b-day, I remember their b-day in my head. But I know that not everyone is like me and I should be thankful that they remember my b-day.
Hey it isn't end of the world. You did something special for your friends, they are lucky to have you! Don't change because they are different. It is better to give than to get.
Oh Happy Happy Birthday!
Hug one of your friends you'll feel better!
2007-01-23 09:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by kermy98 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your not over-reacting, your right, they should have remembered. You will find that in life, you'll meet people who are "friends", and the people that PRETEND to be your friends. It could have been an honest mistake, but then again maybe not. Stop making such a big deal about their birthdays or anything else and maybe they'll re-direct that kindness you showed to them to you.
2007-01-23 09:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
-Are You advantageous..? I once had a similar element take position- purely to finally end up getting a wonder party precisely a MONTH later ! -all of us idea my Birthday become in July -instead of June !!! So do not supply up wish rather yet... -And chuffed Birthday- from anybody on the WWW !! :)
2016-10-16 00:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by filonuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like you in that I get a little mad and frustrated over these kinds of things. You aren't over-reacting! OK, I do believe they're true friends. Friends forget important stuff, but they'll always be for you when you need somebody to lean on for support.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
2007-01-23 09:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by ×ithurtsogoodØ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you spent your birthday in misery. However, this really isn't a big deal. My friends aren't really into big bonanzas either. So, stop thinking/worrying about it. Its not going to do you any good. And, anyways, they could be planning you a suprise party and just wanted to make you think they forgot to make the suprise all that more meaningful. Happy Birthday!
2007-01-23 09:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well Happy Birthday, these thing´s happen sometime´s . don´t let it get you down, Happened to me once , but everybody had other thing´s on there mind´s someones uncle died , and on the same day one of my sister-in-laws mother died, & my mum of all people only remembered 10 mins before midnight she just got there in time. But in this case of your friend´s you would have thought 1 would have remembered ,
2007-01-23 09:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep, it's sad but in life, a lot of people are like that and then there's people like yourself who remember things like that and go out of their way to make other people's days special. Don't harden on it, just keep doing what you do. I knowit sucks....btw...a belated Happy Birthday.....*xxx*
2007-01-23 09:15:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋