im only 35 and not a wierdo. but when the kids are in bed it is so lonely. she as only bin gone one month. is this all i have to look forward to? typing to my self like some kind of sad'o. as anyone got the answer? think i need some one to talk to. live the dream hey.
2007-01-23 08:52:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thankyou to everyone who replyed. a lot of you made me smile. xx
2007-01-24 04:08:39 · update #1
I know where you are coming from. It is SO hard. I think it will get better (but I am not there yet either.) Is there anyway for you to see a therapist or get a babysitter so you can go out sometime?
2007-01-23 09:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by shannon d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each day will get better. Your main concern right night is that your children are okay. Keep busy , with the kids. Write a journal of how you feel . Write what you want out of life. Your emotions are raw right now. Do not jump into a relationship because you are lonely. Start going places with the kids. Do things so you are tired and just go to sleep as soon as you hit the bed. You are young and life will go on. It is hard . The hardest thing to do is lose the one you love . You were feeling comfortable in your life now you have to start all over and it is not easy. But with the help of God and time you will make. Good luck and God Bless
2007-01-23 17:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are so sad and lonely... Why did your wife leave you and the kids... Why is she not with her kids? You will need counseling and help to get past this and to move on with your life and start to heal. Make some new friends to hang out with and do fun things with your kids.. File for divorce if there is no saving to your marriage and let her go. Then over time try dating again. I wish you the best and i will be praying for you and your situation. Take up a new hobby and if you like animals or pets get one for you and the kids to enjoy... Take time for just you at times too...
2007-01-23 17:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, and time will heal, but it is hard. I was left with my two daughters and it took like forever to get used to going to bed "alone" and waking up "alone". Its been many years for me, and I have had a few relationships here and there, but notihing that materilaized into anything, so I am still looking and waiting. My daughters have kept be busy along the way, and without them, I have no idea what I would do. Its still hard sometimes, due to holidays and just wanting to have someone to hold. But like I said my friend, it will take time, but continue doing for your kids and oneday you will meet someone to share your life with. I am glad you have your kids and they are probably better off with you anyway. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-01-23 17:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) You don't say how long you were married for but this would be quite an adjustment for anybody. Personally I wouldn't rush out to be in another relationship to cure your lonliness anytime soon. Read some good books, renew some friendships, find a new hobby, write in a journal, make some on-line friends. I wish you the best and hope you find peace and happiness.
"How To Cure Lonliness"
http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/how-to-cure-loneliness-faq.htm
2007-01-23 17:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise it doesn't last forever. You just need time to grieve before you let go. Stop thinking about only the good times, that's what I did when I divorced my ex. And I seemed to forget the reason I left. Hindsight is 20/20. lol! You need to think about the child/ren and what is best for them and for you as well. Hang in there!!!
2007-01-23 17:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce can be a very sad time. Let those feelings flow. Get them out of you. Get over your wife by praying for her for two weeks. Consider seeing a psychologist to work through your feelings. And, do not date until you feel ready. Although, you should socialize with other friends.
2007-01-23 16:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I know what you mean I have been there. I used to paint and clean to busy myself. It's awful and I really feel for you. E.mail me if you wanna chat i know things will get better for you. It does take time but when you move forward and look back on this you will appreciate what you have.
2007-01-23 17:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, at least you have your kids:)
It gets better. Maybe join a gym, get the kids a dog you can go walk in parks together. If your kids are in sports, you get to meet single soccer moms, etc.
Cheer up. You're going to be fine.
2007-01-23 16:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly honey, if she's left you and her children, your best shot of her.
She's obviously one selfish cow.
It's hard for a man to be left on his own, but think, you have been lucky really, youv'e got your kids, it would have been much worse if she had taken them too,they'll give you the strength to carry on.
Good luck and god bless.
2007-01-26 03:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋