Everytime we have sex my husbands feels terrible the next day his joints hurt, he has dry eyes , his stomach is bloated and he is very weak, he was referred to an urologist who checked his prostate and his testostone levels everything was fine , I am at the end of my rope we are both in our mid 40s. please only serious anwsers
2007-01-23 08:46:49 · 23 answers · asked by vesta k 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Does he take supplements, like multivitamins?
He should be taking a men's multiple, along with Essential Fatty Acids.
Take him to your local health food store & ask for help there. Be honest & explain what's going on. They'll help you.
2007-01-23 09:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms. Mystery: It's normal in any couple to have differences. One person wants sex more than the other. One person is neater than the other, one person disciplines the kids more, one talks more. You are two separate people. If this is your only problem, then you need to wake up and realize many women wish they had your problem. You don't want your husband running off to find sex elsewhere I'm guessing. Find new ways to make sex fun again for you. Maybe you could kiss longer before hand, dress sexy, go out on a "date". Ask him for more foreplay, or whatever turns you on. Use your imagination. Have fun! Mr. Know: Wow! You should consider that you are fortunate that after 16 years of marriage, he still wants to have sex with you 3 to 4 times a week. From a guy's perspective, at 43 years old, 3 to 4 times a week is not that much. The irony is that he probably thinks 3 or 4 times a week isn't enough. Every guy has a different sexual drive, but I think his is probably normal. There is a problem, captain. You either don't want to be married to him any more or you're going through some physical changes. It's almost like you're annoyed with him. I recommend (1) you figure out what the problem is between you and him. Maybe he's not attractive anymore or doesn't treat you nice or you just lost that loving feeling. (2) If you really don't want to have sex with him anymore, then you could let him have a little fun outside the marriage. He needs to release that sexual energy. (3) Maybe you're just tired of the marriage thing and just need a dog and a cat. Whatever it is that you need and want, you need to figure it out now, before you wake up 20 years later and say "I hate my marriage. I want a divorce." Good Luck and Godspeed.
2016-03-28 23:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having him increase his H2O intake, those sound like symptoms of dehydration. So, put on something slinky, serve him a big bottle of water, and maybe 800 mg of Ibuprofen before sex and then again in the AM (for joint pain). See if that helps.
How is his diet? Is he in otherwise good health? Does he have any bowel problems (the bloating?) Maybe he has IBS.
I would find a DR that specializes in sexual dysfunction, (I'm hoping that Dr's still investigate the symptoms and don't just prescribe Viagra or Cialis)
Good luck to you both, (and not to be rude, but maybe you may need to get yourself a "little vibe friend" for those nights he does'nt want to play~invite him to watch?)
2007-01-23 08:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be curious if your husband has the same joint pain, dry eyes, etc after a strenous exercise workout. If so, I would get a complete blood work up on him including iron levels and be checked for autoimune diseases. Does his joints get red and swell? Is it the hot shower after sex that is causing him the pain. Is it your perfume? Is it the lubricants? Does he have a small hernia, etc, etc.
2007-01-23 09:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has many aches and pains the day after also. The sex is good. I don't understand it and it makes me just not want to do it the next time because I have to hear all of the moaning and groaning the following daysssssss. I pretty much now give it to him when he begs and regularly pleasure myself. Try it.
2007-01-23 15:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by bajllc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the others, it sounds like a Landry list of excuses.
Try spicing up your sex life a little and make it a little more interesting...
2007-01-23 09:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He clearly needs a complete physical check-up. I've never heard of sex affecting a man this way. It doesn't make any sense at all.
2007-01-23 08:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG. If he does not want to do anything for himself to get his sex drive back, you are gonna be on the road out. This is really weird. I don't see any connection between the symptoms you mention and sex. I'm not saying they don't happen, I just don't see a valid connection physically. It could be mental.
2007-01-23 08:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have to take it real slow with the old timer...lol just kidding on the old timer phrase. But I would tell him to just relax and lay on the bed and you could get on top and ride him. He doesn't have to do any movement and he can just relax. You should be gentle and go slow. Eventually you can go from there. That is my best advice. Well besides to get him painkillers on the black market to bribe him with the next day.
2007-01-23 08:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Scotty 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please, go have him checked out for chronic fatigue syndrome or fibromyalgia. His symptoms sound very close to these two illnesses, and they are often overlooked because there is no test for them. Don't take it personally. Give him what support you can muster, and make sure you have people to support you as well.
Peace be with you.
2007-01-23 08:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by ginevra1weasley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋