If i quit my job because my husband needs me at home at night in bed with him.Should I ask him to give up his beeper because I don't like it when he on call?it's not like he needs the overtime pay.
2007-01-23 08:34:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe it or not, sacrifice is NOT a good way to run a relationship. Usually, it results in resentment.
Mutually enthusiastic agreed upon solutions are the way to go. So if you feel something is a sacrifice, it's probably not the right answer if you are trying to build a better relationship.
It may seem like a good idea now, but ultimately, repeated sacrifice results in resentment.
2007-01-23 08:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What exactly does he need you in bed for? For sex, or because he misses you? In either case he needs to grow up. My husband and I make lots of sacrifices in order to pay our bills and keep a roof over our heads. It's not always easy, but it brings us closer together because we are a team and do what needs to be done. Is it possible you could have a different shift? Do you need this job or can you live on his income alone? Is this job important to you for other reasons. Really examine all of these issues and talk to him.
2007-01-23 16:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quitting your job to satisfy your hubby is not a good decision. You will end up resenting him and if he loses the beeper, he might end up resenting you. In the long run, it's not good for the marriage.
2007-01-23 16:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he's not cheating on you? Does he want you home at night because he's insecure about where you are because he knows what he's doing? Be careful girl...and who the hell uses beepers these days? Even drug dealers have cell phones.
2007-01-23 16:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not ask him to get rid of it.... Let him be the one bringing home the bacon and supporting everything and you be home and ready for him lol.... You could always work and make money from home as well... Enjoy him being the one working... Maybe you can get a part time job to help out. I like my husband working and we do ok as i am a stay at home mom and i actually like it!
2007-01-23 16:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you quit your job perhaps he will need the overtime but if not, he should give up the beeper too.
2007-01-23 16:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No doubt about it... Ask yourself, do you really dont need the OT pay? and... do you really want to quit your job. There is no point on you quiting your job if that is your way out from the 4 walls of your house. if working calms you... then talk him out, if you really want to be with him at night and during the day at home... go for it, it's all about "the choice"
2007-01-23 16:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a possibly selfish view on things. He may enjoy his beeper going off, getting up early and even working.
Leave him to make his own decisions.
2007-01-23 16:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by jobo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes and no. I would have a sit down talk with him about it. Bring up the finances. Who knows, mabye being oncall could lead to promotions with the sacrifice he's making by wearing the pager. If you don't want to quit working, sit down and talk about different options. Instead of thinking of the right now, talk about future. It might clear up the air!
2007-01-23 16:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jase 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You should only quit your job if YOU have a problem with the schedule of hours. Your husband can quit his job and get a nitetime one where he can be in bed when youre in bed if he wants to so bad.
2007-01-23 16:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kamryn's Mommie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋