She is 14 and haven’t spoken to her parents & 11 yr old sister for 1 yr & they don’t know why. Whenever her parents ask her, she say “nothing much. You wouldn’t understand.” She has never been abused or been in trouble. She is not pregnant or sexually active. She cooks & does laundry for herself when her parents aren’t home. She doesn’t need her parents to remind her to do her homework or wake up for school. She even have a weekend job & is in many afterschool activities. She can handle the workload while most 14 yr olds can't. Her parents are very concerned and cry all the time because they don’t know what’s going on. She is in 9th grade and gets all A’s mostly. Her teachers say she is very intelligent. She is not rude to anyone, including her parents. She has friends, plans to finish school and be a forensic scientist.
She is not my child but I know someone like her. What is going on? I don’t understand. What should parents with a child like her do?
2007-01-23 08:32:15 · 11 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I've notice kids who got their life already figure out, and have a plan are more quiet than others, before they talk they tend to think first or it might be that she just wants privacy. At least, when I was in high school, I pull my self away from my parents, because the more they know about me, the more they nag.
2007-01-23 08:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with the people who thinks she needs therapy? And I can't believe someone suggested anti deppressants. Giving children mind and mood altering drugs is just wrong.
I was the exact same way when I was that old. Some teenagers just don't feel the need to act dependant. She doesn't need therapy, she just needs for them to leave her be. If she is obviously a good kid, then why push her. Trying to make her talk or god forbid forcing her to see a therapist will most likely make her rebel and feel like her parents think there is something wrong with her. She's fine.
2007-01-23 18:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a "friend" in such a case as this. My friend, may not have the same problem as this girl, but in her case she was physically assaulted by a guy, with out her permission of course. She acted the same way for years. It may not be the case for this child, but send her immediately to a therapist, she may need anti depressants, or just a friend to talk to that she knows wont judge her. Make sure the therapist or friend is a professional woman, who is younger, and is in such a related field. Don't stress all teens around this age have problems fitting in, and with all the hormones and changes, its probably nothing, but be careful, some times if they don't get help, and they are really sad, it could lead to some scary thoughts on their behalf! So please tell her to talk to someone, be gentle do it soon though!
2007-01-23 16:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Novak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
14 years old and she is still living under the parents' roof? Then maybe the parents should start acting like parents. In other words, ALL extra-curricular activities suspended until conversation resumes (yes, this includes the job). If counseling is needed then get it but first start with the simple "you're going to talk to us and behave in a civilized manner. Unless the parents like being treated like a doormat.
2007-01-23 16:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by anothersomeonenew 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she talk to anybody else? What was happening in her life around the time that she decided to not speak anymore. Sounds like she is trying to detach or alienate herself from her family for some reason. This child needs therapy.
2007-01-23 16:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pinky Lee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These parents should be glad that she's so well behaved. A lot of kids go through a phase like this. I wouldn't push her, she's only going to go back into herself more.
2007-01-23 16:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should have her checked out by her doctor make sure that she is not suffering quietly from something medical. If not that then they should seek some counseling, because it sounds like something might be troubling her. Good Luck!!
2007-01-23 16:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she is independent okay like she knows what's shes doing maybe she wants to prepare herself for grown up years .tell her parents to take her out to places she likes and spend some more time with her maybe she'll open up but dont preassure her to talk to you/her parents...
2007-01-23 16:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by unsure 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. she's just independent.
she doesn't need anyone, nothing wrong with that.
2007-01-23 16:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♠ Ace of spades♠ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
justs burns her w/ yo cig n she wills talks
2007-01-23 18:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋