I go to a quite small school so there are only 14 girls in my year including me. This means i have a very small group of friends but this one girl acts friendly with me then is really mean about me behind my back. The problem is shes really popular and could turn everyone against me if i say a word. What shall I do!?
2007-01-23 08:28:29 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If others believe what she says about you with no evidence, they are not your friends. You don't need friends like that. The problem these days is that we have lost the definition of what a good friend is. A good friend is there in good times and bad and is loyal. This means she will defend you to others even if it is not the popular thing to do. Look for a friend like who will be willing to be there for you and you should do the same for her. A real friend values your friendship and you. She would never "turn against" you because of a shallow bunch of people who want to make up stories behind your back.
2007-01-23 08:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see this side of her, trust me, so does everyone else. They are probably thinking the same about her.
Stay polite, kind, nice to everyone including her and never (under any circumstances) talk about her behind her back to the small group of friends - If you do it WILL get back to her.... especially if she's someone popular.
Maybe you should confront her once and just politely ask her if she's said mean things about you behind your back. When she denies it say something like, "I didn't think you would say that - you're too sweet to do something like that, right?" It'll make her think twice the next time the evil gossip monster wants to come out in her, not to mention she'll know that you're strong enough to stand up to her.
Trust me honey, what goes around, comes around. I knew a girl that was EXACTLY like that in high school (I graduated 15 years ago). Guess what - I saw her a few weeks ago at Hooters carrying a tray of chicken wings.
2007-01-23 08:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 options. 1, you can shoot her in the back of the head. 2, you can shoot her in the face. 3...
Just kidding. Please don't. Or if you do, don't mention me.
Anyway, number 3. I would recomend slowly cutting ties with her. Don't sit with her this day, talk to someone else instead the next day. But the key is, with someone who is really popular, at the same time you are cutting ties with her, make sure you are strengthening ties with others. Because you have to remember one thing, she is only "popular" so long as everyone else likes her. If they have become better friends with you because you do what I said, when she says crap, nobody is going to listen. You may not think it will work now, but trust me I've been there. And besides, if she falls from grace and everybody else loves you after she's "gone", guess what that makes YOU?
2007-01-23 08:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Saint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evil and friend should not be in the same sentence. Honestly I would just put up with her crap. Then when you go to college meet some cool people and try to make some real friends that are full of gossip and B.S. I know that it doesnt help the situation now but you will realize in the future that its not worth the time or effort to try to befriend somebody who is "popular". Friendship is a lot deeper than that.
2007-01-23 08:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Shmesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. that sounds like me. the way i deal with it is be nice to everyone as much as you can. theres not many girls right? so how can she turn SOOO many people against you. first get the majority of the girls on your side. it might take time because you have to REALLY earn their friendship so they know your more worth it than this b****. once thats over. confront her but be really sweet about it. and just mention that you heard that she says things. dont tell her you know she did. that will piss her off. if she flips on you. dont worry about it. you were calm. dont say anything mean back, so now she has nothing against you and the others will side with you. then you have real friendship. but theres always the chance that she is nice back or claims she never said those things. you may know shes lying, but just be like, "okay. nevermind. i thought you were being mean and lying about me behind me back. but of course I was wrong. your way too nice to do that." then maybe she will feel guilty and stop. but we all know how those popular b****** are. she will definately lie mroe about it. just be as nice as you can be so that they will have nothing to hold against you. and you should always have that one best friend, maybe two, that will always be there for you no matter what happens. and im guessing there are guys in your class too. she will probably try to tell them lies about you too if you mention anything.try to get a couple guys on your side too. dont mention anything about her. just be really nice to these guys. and do things for them she would never even think of, like complimenting them. they make think you like them, but im just throwing out ides here! i may have more to say later after i think about it.
2007-01-23 08:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of school only has fourteen girls in a grade. get out of this cult school and get in a public school. you won't have to deal with this crap.how do you know she talks behind your back.who tells you this some trouble maker.remember some people are just mean and nasty you can't change them. be nice and not a jerk and you will have all the friends you need. what do you do go to a freak religious school if you do i feel sorry for you good luck
2007-01-23 08:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself. Who cares what everyone else thinks. I'm sure you have other friends outside of school. If not, just know that friends come and go and the older you get the less friends you'll have but they will be more sincere friends. And if these other friends of yours do turn agaisnt you then they more than likely weren't your friends to begin with.
2007-01-23 08:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ryeroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a frienemy with her. when she seems sweet to you, be sweet back to her. whatever she is saying about yourself, prove or make her wrong. Even though you hate her with all of your heart, pretend your best and show to everyone that how much you love her and care about her. Even when you are told by someone that she talks trash about you. tell them that you forgive her. At the mean time, you don't let her or her friends know anything about you. All you have to give them is just sugarcoating. Later on, they won't have anything to talk about you since they knows nothing about you. But talk with your mom or sis about what you are encountering at school. they will help to deal with those bad feelings. Good luck.
2007-01-23 08:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by cal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh this is a tough one! Tell her how you feel and ask her nicely to stop. If she does turn everyone on you- they won't listen to her. You are the nice one and who cares if she's popular?!! You are the one people like and she talks about people behind their backs so they will NOT turn on you! DON'T WORRY!! :)
2007-01-23 08:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by computeruser1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about having friends and worry about the fact that your'e being disrespected!! Tell her that she's obviously jealous and insecure and that she needs to say stuff about you behind your back because she's a punk biotch!! Let her have it and I guarantee that not only will you keep the friends that you already have but also her friends will start flocking to hang with you............
2007-01-23 08:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋