She had been looking for a job for ever and i finally pulled ajor strings, she had absolutetley no experience, and got her my old job. My boss was my mentor and now that relationship is gone. I have spent nights and weekends training her, she is probably one of the most selfish people i have ever encountered. Everything is about her. She has yet to thank me for getting her the job. I really don't think she respets the boundaries of my relationships that i have formed with the people she now works with. It is driving me crazy. What do you suggest i do?
2007-01-23 08:28:05 · 2 answers · asked by Berian C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask her if she realizes the magnititude of what you've done for her. Tell her that she could at least thank you for doing such a big favor... I've been in the same boat before. A forced thanks is still better than none. Hopefully you didn't really inconvenience yourself by doing this!
2007-01-23 08:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by chronicalz21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out and ask her if she appreciates the job you found for her or not. If her answer is negative, you have your answer why she is not grateful. You could then tell her that you put your own relationships with people you have worked with on the line for her.
Tell her if she doesn't appreciate what you have done and does not like the job, perhaps she would be happier at some other place of employment.
I would also go to the people you had a good relationship and explain to them you did not know how negative she was and you are sorry if she has brought wedges between you and them.
Is there any way for you and others to let her know what is appropriate in your place of employment and what is not. Some people don't stop their negative behavior because no one has ever let them know it is not appropriate.
2007-01-23 16:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋