How can I change my jealousy habit?

Question

What can I do to stop myself from being possessive and jealous of my boyfriend when other women talk to him?

Answer 1

well your prbably feel threatened but it may or may not be justifed. Sometimes we think there is a threat when it is totally innocent and if it is innocent you will drive your bf away from you. I think you should discern if you can trust your bf ask yourself how did I meet him? Did I behave like the women I am afraid of when I first met him? Is he a cheater or has he been in the past? dDd you parents cheat on each other ? are you afraid of being abandonded because your folks split? just somethings to think on before you jump to conclusions with the women you seem threatened by.Sometimes we feel threatened because we see other people the way we see our selves and we measure them by it. I am not saying that you should trust these women but just try not to overwhelm eveyone with your insecurities it can cause you to lose good men and even good friends. Try to balance your fears with the moment at hand. don't go looking for signs of infidelity or everything will seem like infidelity. Keep a good watch without making people feel uncomfortable around you.And also you may want to talk to a counsler if this doesn't help...best wishes

Answer 2

Dr Joyce Brothers said that jealousy is the loneliest emotion because it leaves you with nothing, and no one feels sorry for you.

Erica Jong, in "How To Save Your Own Life" (c. 1942), said jealousy is all the fun you think they had.

And the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, (etc., etc., etc., as the King of Siam was fond of saying!)

So I guess that means you gotta be the cheer leader - and let them follow you.
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Answer 3

"Coping with jealousy
People who experience pathological jealousy, and people for whom jealousy triggers violence, may benefit from professional counseling. People who experience normal jealousy have at least nine strategies for coping with jealousy. The problem-solving strategies include: improving the primary relationship, interfering with the rival relationship, demanding commitment, and self-assessment. The emotion-focused strategies include: derogation of partner or rival, developing alternatives, denial/avoidance, support/catharsis, and appraisal challenge. These strategies are related to emotion regulation, conflict management, cognitive change, and ground rules for managing jealous competition. The most important thing to do about any feelings of jealousy is to first admit them, and then attempt to overcome them."

Answer 4

there is ususally a reason somebody is jealous, undesirable relationships indoors the previous, maybe he's out doing some thing and he's checking up on you to take the warmth temperature off of him, it somewhat is amazingly smart to start up appearing some snopping. additionally, did you cheat on him or make him have self belief some thing like that? Time for counseling

Answer 5

Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, so getting some constructive criticism from friends and family could help. Or you could take it straight to a counsellor and get their suggestions.. hope this helps.

Answer 6

Well you could try going out with men who are trustworthy and prove it to you over and over again. Then you will know they can't be charmed away.

Or you could look into your own heart to see where the deep sense of betrayal came from that makes you expect everyone to reject and abandon you.

Or you could go out with total idiots and then it wouldn't be a fear they would be stolen away, but a faint hope!

Just kidding on that last one.

Answer 7

Would you want a man who no one else wants?
Think about this before you answer. Apply it to your boyfriend. Feel good that even though other girls wish to talk to him, He chooses you to be with.
OR
Maybe it is you that can't be trusted and you're putting your disease on him.

Answer 8

You know what you should do? You should talk to more guys & just relax yourself rather than spending time snooping around him & get jealous.

Answer 9

It has everything to do with self confidence and self esteem. Find ways to bring up your self worth, and then you will over come that negative emotion with positive influence.

Answer 10

You can try hanging out with the girls he hangs out with, too, and get to know what they do and stuff. Or, you can just tell him in a nice way if he could talk less to them and pay more attention to you.