broke up with my ex 2 months ago and he still trying to call me.
he has always been the controlling type who physically absed me and also is threatning me now after i broke up. Right now i am trying my best to end all contact with him . and he is still trying to call me at work .. i have not ans any of this call since 2 weeks and do not reply to his abusive emails or even emails he writes to say that he still wishes the best for me ( yeah right !!!).... I know i must not speak with him... but would this aggrivate him further...
I really don't want to talk to him or having anything to do with him.
he knows how to make me feel bad and uses that against me
2007-01-23 08:24:53 · 20 answers · asked by Princess 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some people are like this. You did the best thing by getting away! Good for you! The bad news is he'll probably hound you until he finds another "victim/gf" to control. They have true problems that you can not fix. If you think he could possibly hurt you, please go to the police with your story, and take copies of your emails. Get an order of protection before it is to late. It may be enough to realize that you're not taking his crap anymore, and he'll find someone else to pick on. If not, the police will be prepared and will handle this.
He will not change no matter what you do, never reply to him. No matter what you do, it will be the wrong thing with this type of a person. He will be a differernt person everytime a switch is flipped..but you already know this I'm sure.
Don't let him ruin your life, but I wouldn't be out by yourself until he cools off a bit. Go places with friends if possible. He will be less likely to mess with you.
2007-01-23 08:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by vkkesu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you are to the point of getting a restraining order against him if he doesnt stop. You might even be able to file some kind of abuse against him. Say you'd rather not take this path but you are under too much pressure and dont deserve to be treated the way he is treating you. My mom had to do this to her ex boyfriend.
2007-01-23 16:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by XoXoGlitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like what you've said he knows how to make you feel bad. The best solution is to actually move on ignore him totally in that way trust me it'll aggrivate him even more.......Ask yourself why does he still want to abuse you verbally? This is a classic case of a bully & from this i can tell that he is suffering from some inferiority complex. Thank you.
2007-01-23 16:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Dairen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the controlling type. Cut off all communication with him. He is trying to harass you into a continuance of your relationship. Do not give in. Totally ignore him. Even if you answer him to try and be polite, or to soothe over his feelings, he will see that as a sign that you want a continued relationship, and it will make him press further.
Some people try to connive others into a relationship they don't want by trying to make the break up as messy as possible.
Don't give in, cut off -- ALL -- communication with him.
Don't worry about his feelings, because he does not care about yours.
2007-01-23 16:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing by avoiding him... do not take his calls or respond to his emails... as a matter of fact, save all his emails if you say that they are abusive... you did the right thing by leaving him... men like that never change and the longer you stay with a person like that the harder it is to leave... if he keeps threatening you make the police aware of the situation... if you have to, get a restraining order... DO NOT go back to him... good luck...
2007-01-23 16:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wiked 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy's taking "being possessive" to the max, sweety. u need to get as far away as possible. Call the police, and record all conversations, emails, phone msgs, and any other contact he tries to make with u. And last but not least, have him charged with uttering threats, stalking, and spousal abuse. Don't let him win. he's not worth it. I hope this helps. Email me and let me know what's going on, ok?
2007-01-23 16:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by thundergnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay the course. DO NOT under any circumstances communicate with him. Ever hear of the phrase "one step forward two steps back"? That is what it will be. Surround yourself with good friends and family if at all possible.
Call the authorities soon if he does not stop.
2007-01-23 16:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Who Knew! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have'nt already save all the emails so you have written proof.I myself would get a Court ordered protection order served to him.Buy yourself a fazer or pepper spray,keep yourself ready.If you let your guard down you may have problems.From the sounds of it you already have a stalker.Just always be aware of your surrounding...
2007-01-23 16:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep get a restraining order on his ***!!
Make sure u keep all the emails as they may be needed as evidence if you go to court.
2007-01-23 18:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by callum828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not talk to him. If you do it means you still care in his mind. Block his mail and don't answer the phone. You might try and get a male friend to threaten him. That worked when I did it for a friend.
2007-01-23 16:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by billxlc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋