My husband works mornings and I work nights till morning.He says that he doesnt want me working nights anymore because he doesnt get to spend time with me like he really wants to and he hates going to bed and i'm not there with him.should I just up and quit my job or should I find another job first before i quit?
2007-01-23 08:24:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you two should brainstorm to find a solution that works for both of you.
Maybe one suggestion is a combination of the two. Start looking for a job now, but set a date, say one or two months in the future where you will quit your current job, or revisit the question.
Perhaps in the next 30-60 day, you simply put your check into savings and see if you can live on his pay alone.
If that doesn't work, then you know you really can't quit, but have to find another job before you quit the current one.
The bottom line is that you both have to work together to find a solution that works and works for both of you that you BOTH ENTHUSIASTICALLY embrace.
It doesn't matter how as much as it matters that you both can enthusiastically accept the solution.
2007-01-23 08:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try to get a job during the day so you can be there for your husband when he is home? You do need to be with him when he needs you there or this will end up straining your marriage and causing problems later.. Count your blessings that he wants to be with you... That is a good thing. Not all men and husbands are like this. Yes you should find another job before you quit.
2007-01-23 16:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a conversation you really should have with your husband. If he is able to support you until you get back on your feet, it might be worth considering. One of the reasons is because your schedule is going to be messed up for a while and you need a couple of weeks to adjust. Then find the job during the day.
If you both cannot work it out that you can quit, then I would encourage you to find a job while you are working. Although, working 3rd shift might make it more difficult. If you can, try looking for a job after you get out of work.
My husband wants to work 3rd shift and I can understand where your husband is coming from. However, my husband and I will need the money and it may work out better for him to work 3rd shift, we will work it out. If we find that this does not work, then we will regroup and figure out how else to compromise.
2007-01-23 16:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If finding another job is an option - by all means, find a job with more "normal" hours. Working opposite shifts can kill a marriage.
2007-01-23 16:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job. No job is more importand than your marriage. Spend all the time together you can. I would hate not being able to sleep with my husband at nights.
2007-01-23 16:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on your financial situation. if you can comfortably live without your income, put your marriage first and quit it today. if you would not be able to make it financially and this would add a financial strain on your marriage, try to talk to your employer and see if you can switch shifts. if they wont, try for a temporary switch and look for another job in the meantime. either way, he is concerned about your marriage and not being able to spend time with you. consider his feelings and try to accomodate without complicating. he sounds like he loves you and just wants it the way it used to be. do it. good luck.
2007-01-23 16:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to find jobs (at least where I live) I would definitely find a new job before you quit your old one.
2007-01-23 16:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by tiffantre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where you are financially, If you can afford to quit and look, then go for it... If not, Start looking and keep your job.. Have a sit down with your Hubby and come to a mutual understanding.
2007-01-23 16:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by á?¦à®?á?¦ Mo á?¦à®?á?¦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find one first
2007-01-23 16:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by E. [= 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a new one and be with your husband. he deserves it :)
2007-01-23 16:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋