My husband works mornings and I work nights till morning.He says that he doesnt want me working nights anymore because he doesnt get to spend time with me like he really wants to and he hates going to bed and i'm not there with him.should I just up and quit my job or should I find another job first before i quit?
2007-01-23 08:23:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is somethiing to talk over with your husband. If you need the second income then find a job before leaving the other.
2007-01-23 08:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by sydb1967 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a conversation you really should have with your husband. If he is able to support you until you get back on your feet, it might be worth considering. One of the reasons is because your schedule is going to be messed up for a while and you need a couple of weeks to adjust. Then find the job during the day.
If you both cannot work it out that you can quit, then I would encourage you to find a job while you are working. Although, working 3rd shift might make it more difficult. If you can, try looking for a job after you get out of work.
My husband wants to work 3rd shift and I can understand where your husband is coming from. However, my husband and I will need the money and it may work out better for him to work 3rd shift, we will work it out. If we find that this does not work, then we will regroup and figure out how else to compromise.
2007-01-23 16:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two should brainstorm to find a solution that works for both of you.
Maybe one suggestion is a combination of the two. Start looking for a job now, but set a date, say one or two months in the future where you will quit your current job, or revisit the question.
Perhaps in the next 30-60 day, you simply put your check into savings and see if you can live on his pay alone.
If that doesn't work, then you know you really can't quit, but have to find another job before you quit the current one.
The bottom line is that you both have to work together to find a solution that works and works for both of you that you BOTH ENTHUSIASTICALLY embrace.
It doesn't matter how as much as it matters that you both can enthusiastically accept the solution.
2007-01-23 16:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋