2007-01-23 08:23:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will be grieving and the amount of time that takes varies for everyone. What you can do is keep busy and make sure you're not just sitting at home every evening alone. Have you got someone who can take the children for a few hours while you go out and relax? This is essential so that you get 'you time'.
Keeping busy and active will help the time to pass and give you something else to focus on.
However, the times that you ache and feel really sad, let the tears come, let the feelings rush through you because this is the pathway to healing.
There will come a time when you realise you are coping and happy again. This will happen gradually. You will survive this painful phase of your life. Lean on friends and family around you. This is not a time to feel too proud.
Best wishes.
2007-01-23 08:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh.
My heart goes out to you.
It'll take you a while, but you'll get there.
It would help to understand her reasons, so that you can move on more easily.
You might want to consider family mediation for your kids. Depending how old they are, they will find it difficult to accept and might give you a very hard time. Usually the older, the more difficult, as from 5 years old.
Also, if you think that your wife might not come back, you might want to see a solicitor to get a separation agreement to make your rights clear. Who's the children's legal guardian. What access do you want her to have to the children either now or even later. What is she entitled to.
It's hard, but it's the type of thing that can quickly become very complicated and delicate; Especially when one has a new partner.
Having said that, take it one day at a time and you'll get there.
Besides, women don't have a problem with single dads.
So, good luck. You'll get there.xx
2007-01-23 08:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until they leave home and get a family of their own.! No seriously everyone is different it gets easier with time but never really goes away, something will always trigger you off again. Are you sad for the Kids or sad for you.? The sadness for yourself goes away a lot quicker than the sadness for your kids, you will think how could she do that to them. Maybe if you meet someone else in the future you will feel different. Good luck. You have a lot off happy times ahead of you with your children - she is the looser - you cannot get that time back!
2007-01-24 02:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You going to be sad for a long time. Something like that you just don't get over overnight. Not only did she leave you she left her kids. In now you half to take 100% responsibility as a man and there father.And as women I know that all to well. My husband left walk out in had 3 kids. Anyways more then likely when things don't go good for her(your wife) she going to want to come back. They always do.You might take her back, but don't be a fool. Life for you is now different. Your going to have to help yourself and start reading self help books. Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has some really good books. In ask God for his help to. You can't do this alone. God Bless
2007-01-23 11:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you. My ex wife left me with my children, ages 6 and 1, she gave up custody. It was hard in the beginning, but I feel the kids are better off with me, especially how she is totally self destructing now. I surrounded myself with family and friends, started to workout and just did the whole single dad thing. The hardest part was finding a daycare for the baby, but everything has fallen into place and I am happy. Time is on your side bud. Good luck.
In the beginning, I met alot of divorced dads with joint or no custody of their kids. They would have loved the opportunity to have their kids, consider yourself lucky.
If she recently left and has been gone for at least week and you are deciding to divorce, go to the courts to grant you temporary full custody. If she comes back and wants the kids, your kinda screwed if you don't do this. Unless you want different?
2007-01-23 08:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by jude 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that is time you also move on with ur life for the sake of the two kids, i no every dad will want what is best for his kids.i don't no why ur wife left but i can tell you to forget the past and start a new life with ur precious kids. i no is not going to be easy for you but only forgetting the past can help you become happy and never be sad again, good luck in the future.
2007-01-23 08:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mavis D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was left also ... about 7 years ago. I also have my child. You will be sad for along time , but time will heal the heart. I have since re-married and my life is very happy. Keep you head up.
2007-01-23 08:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by TR 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First all I'm sadden to hear that a mother could walk out on her kids. What you need to do is not be sad, it will effect your kids. Go on with your life and make a better one for your kids. They will respect you later in life.
2007-01-23 08:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you must be feel so sad and confused now.. but you must remember you still have your kids now, AND THEY NEED YOU.. so if you ask pity question like that, then you must answer that question by your self.. how long you want to make your self suffer, and feel more pain..
One thing, if she leave you AND YOUR KIDS.. she must be not right person, she must be so selfish person in this world.. even she made excuse for whatever reason... she still the one who did the wrong thing.. not you.. so don't feel so hopeless now.. even your wife leave you .. your life and your kids life must still go on.. so just remember about that.. now you must get-up and you still have your kids.. that more important than anything in this world..
2007-01-23 08:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by sylvaniaS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna suck until you stop blaming yourself and recognize her role in all of this. Then you are probably going to get mad. She left you, so she gave up.
You have your kids. Try not to bad mouth, etc your ex in front of them. Get involved in your kids' lives for now--they need you. Plus... you might meet somebody better through their lives someday:)
2007-01-23 09:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋