We have been dating for four years. Im 38 and hes 45. When I first met him he would do pot once in awhile and now its an EVERYDAY habit. This really bothers me and he knows it. Sometimes I feel that this habit is more important to life. Im worried about his health. His mood is really bad when he doesnt smoke this stuff. He always tell me dont worry about my problems just worry about yours. He is a great man but his habits are so terrible!! What would you do ????? Also we have no kids together but he has 3 that he sees every other weekend.
2007-01-23 08:07:07 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HABITS ARE HARD TO STOP SPECIALLY IF HE IS BEING DOING IT FOR A LONG TIME, IF YOU DONT HAVE ANY ATTACHMENTS WITH HIM JUST LEAVE HIM AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS****
2007-01-23 08:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok really... I'm sorry, but you just pissed me off.
For one, pot isn't bad and it doesn't make you in a bad mood. What makes people in a bad mood is other people and horrible life situations. I've had some very enlightening experiences with weed. Obviously something is wrong with your relationship and how judgemental you are. You knitpick about this, really it's not a problem. If he was selling it then there would be a f'n problem because it's illegal. If he says,"Don't worry about my problems just worry about yours," you are making him feel badly about his actions which are NOT BAD and he's hating you for it.
Those kids are HIS kids, I'm sure the WEED doesn't effect them.
If he smoked cigarettes would you be so worried about his health?????? I hope so, cause that's just the same. Except yeska can really be USEFUL for medical purposes.
HE'S A GREAT MAN and then you say... BUT!!!! BUT HIS HABITS? What about your own? Are you consumed by others problems, are you a critic about everything? I hope not, your man doesn't need that s***.
I'm glad you don't have kids with him. My parent's smoked weed and I turned out really well. I'm studying to be a psychologist. Not only is weed useful with stress, anxiety, and depression. It also helps cancer patients KEEP FOOD DOWN.
I can tell you about studies taking with test groups... But I can tell that it doesn't matter to you. You have been brainwashed.
You cannot over dose on weed, but you can over dose on everything else.
Personally, I think he was in a bad mood because you are too obsessed with what he does and that was really bothering him. When on weed you are sensitive to other peoples emotions and intentions. Be NICE, he's not harming you.
2007-01-23 16:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by _Lara_Bell_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you saw him do it once a while now he doing everyday because he felt so comfortable around you an d so the thing is that you need to tell him you have to make the choice me or the pot. plain and simple... and if he want to quit then support him and if he can't then you know where to stand. what if cops come bust the door and you don't know his history???? you be going to jail too. You putting your life in his hand where he can take you down with him.
I could be wrong but who knows he might make the wrong decison to do that. but pls. let him know how you feel and let him choose what he needs to do.
wish you luck. thank god no kids together and you might want to think twiice and you 38 and you smart than he his and now he already gone from too much pot and going to be harder for him to quit did you notice might see money problem??? or something so many things like things are missing??? found out see what you notice.
2007-01-23 16:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, his "habits" are a part of who he is, so he can't be a "great" man - he's a man with some good qualities and some seriously bad qualities. He's become an addict, and it's impairing his life.
And you can't just ignore his problems - that's not what a relationship is about. You have to help him see that his habit has become a problem, and that it will destroy your relationship if he doesn't make an effort to conquer it. If he's even not willing to consider your needs and his own well-being, then it's time you cut this loser loose.
2007-01-23 16:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not a great man. You are a fool to hang around with this guy even 1 day longer.
When you are in a relationship, their problems become your problems. Congrats. Now you have a pot-problem too.
He also only bothers to see his 3 kids every other weekend. What a hero.
2007-01-23 16:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well fisrt off that is illegal and he is not showing his kids very good manners or showing them how to obey the law. ok you know once in awhile is not bad however he may have beome infatuated with how he feels when he is on it 9i would suggest telling him that yeah it is your problem also since he gets moody when he does not do this and usually this what kids do everyday not adults he sounds immature and even if he is a nice guy things may change down the road if this is getting more important then you or his life talk tohim about it if he dfeos not atleast try to stop fro his kids or you then i would leave him it is also a lot of money to go buying all that weed
2007-01-23 16:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by sororitychick_112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex -boyfriend was like that , it start off every once awhile, then it start 3 times aday...If it bother you that much maybe you really let him know that you worry about his problem, if he still don't care.. Maybe it's time for you to sit back and see is this what you really want. Because you want kids by this man, that not going to happen if he smoking like that , it make you shoot blanks
2007-01-23 16:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by martha h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has problems and is not going to stop smoking. Is this really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Its been 4 years why spend another day with him.
2007-01-23 16:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's been smoking pot daily since you met him. He's just managed to make you think that it was an occasional treat. He's probably been smoking daily for many years. Otherwise, he wouldn't have a personality change when he stopped for a day or two.
Tell him to choose - you or the pot.
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2007-01-23 16:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has become addicted to pot, it's become his life style and his way of life, you will never get him to quit. Being with him for 4 yrs is long enough. Find a man that has no addictions and you'll be much happier. good luck
2007-01-23 16:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going no where with this man, except to jail if you are caught while he is enjoying his recreation. You use the word DATING, after 4 years. That should tell you something.
2007-01-23 16:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋