engaged..in love..dreaming of ex????

Question

ok so im engaged and so in love it hurts. We have beent together on and off for 2 years but lastnight and a few months ago i started having dreams of my ex...why is that??...i dont want him i want my fiance...anyone got any explainations?.....

Answer 1

Actually is it quite normal to have dreams of an ex. The fact that you are so in love and so ready for this your psyche is trying to balance this out by bringing out the past.

I went through this for the first few months after my marriage. My ex kept popping up in my dreams and I fought it. In fact it actually helped me love my wife more and grow even closer to her.

It is normal to second guess yourself when making big moves in life, but trust your instincts and also trust that you will get over your dreams. You have to live the real dream with your fiance.

Answer 2

Sure. Its an easy explanation. I have been recently engaged too and i had familiar thoughts. I can explain it only one way. Once you tie yourself to another person on a serious commitment level you not necessary have doubts whether you've made right choice or not by picking your fiance to be your fiance, but just to compare your ex or ex's to your current man. It is part of self assurance that you did a right step by accepting engagement with this guy not your ex. And it makes a lot of sense because like you said you dont want you ex, you want you fiance, but you still compare them. It is more like analysis that you are solving in your head. And the reaosn you have dreams is because you think of it a lot. Something you think a lot of on a regular daily basis is usually becomes a part of your dream. Hope this helped.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Dreaming about your ex suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learn from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do no repeat the same mistake. Alternatively, past lovers often highlight the positive experiences you had with that person. In particular, seeing your ex in your dream indicates that you are finding yourself in a situation that you do not want to be in. It suggests that you are experiencing a similar relationship or situation which makes you feel unhappy and uncomfortable. The dream is trying to tell you not to make the same relationship mistakes that ended that relationship. Alternatively, seeing your ex in your dream also means aspects of yourself that you have x'd out or neglected

Answer 5

Do you still communicate with your ex? Is there any special date coming up that involved your ex? Are you getting nervous about being engaged to someone you were on and off with? Something is going on in your sub-conscious to trigger these dreams. You also need to look at whats happening in your dreams, may be a sign of a bigger problem. Good Luck.

Answer 6

It is very common for people to dream about ex-partners. Individuals that have been an important part of our lives continue to take up a part of our mind and heart. It is impossible to very dramatically shut the person out of thoughts and feelings. Just because the relationship ends does not mean that all is finished. As we go through relationships we learn and at times pick up "battle wounds." You will continue to dream about your ex boyfriend until you "let go" of him on a very important level, or until you learned your lessons from that relationship. Either way, dreaming about your ex-romance does not predict future involvement. It may be wish-fulfillment, reliving memories, or working out old issues.

Answer 7

Your brain is filled with tons of info, and most times it gets it all jumbled up when you are sleeping.It more than likely is due to the fact you and your ex have talked about getting married and all at one time too,and you remember at the time how you believed it and wanted it to be.So now when you are thinking of getting married again you sometimes worry that this one will turn out not to happen either.Its just your mind inverting back to a similar situation of your past.I would just blow it off.Before bed try and think of things less to do with marriage and all that and see if it don't curb some of them un wanted dreams.
Good luck!

Answer 8

You need to do some soul searching girl.....are you in love with your Fiance because he is there or are you trully deeply in love with him? With your ex was there anything that was left unresolved? Sometimes it happens that you think of an ex before you get married but are you getting married soon? Take sometime for yourself and think about your current situation and really think if thats what you want...only you can decide what you want in your life.

Answer 9

It could be just jitters. Right before I got married, I was dreaming of my ex from 6 years before, the ex right before my husband. I didn't tell my husband about the dreams and my mind morphed them into me thinking that I still loved my ex. Thankfully, I am still friends with the ex, and I talked to both my husband (then fiance) and ex about it. They both helped me realize what was going on. You don't have to talk about them, but it could be your mind's way of letting you know you are nervous or that you won't have that free lifestyle anymore. It is nothing to worry about. Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 10

U must be missing an aspect of that relationship that is absent in your present one. But keep in mind people are ex’s for a reason and 9 time sout of 10 the reason remains. So going back would never work!