i get made though and sometimes hit him first i know its wrong..so does that mean hes not wrong? the first time i didnt hit him though he fractured my eye bone gave me a concuision and dislocated my jaw..now he hits me when hes mad or if i hit him....am i wrong for getting mad if i start it?
2007-01-23 07:43:29 · 20 answers · asked by *aShLeE* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He is WRONG no matter who started it,he finishes with broken bones. If your worried about why you start things,maybe its him? DITCH that DUDE and get a restraining order too. You won't sleep without one! Plus you can't get back together with him either,which you had better not try.
Can you get counseling for anger management,,.. for yourself? Don't be embarrassed, therapy is for everyone! When you understand why those bad boys bring out your worst, you can stop it. While you're still alive.
HUGE hugs its a tough thing,girl. Hang in there.
2007-01-23 07:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by ashlan_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you start it. If you think that him hitting you is wrong then you have to realize that you are wrong as well and need to stop. If he has hit you more than once which it seems he has you need to get away. I know that this may not be easy but you need to do it. Why do you stay if you get mad at one another you should get out now while you still can. No man should ever hit a woman, it is wrong and it is illegal.
2007-01-23 15:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it is not okay for you to hit him...it is DEFINITELY wrong for him to hit you. First or in retaliation. This is a RED FLAG to run away as far as you can. I don't know how long you've been in a relationship with him, but you need to get out FAST! You are in danger. He has already broken bones and he will not think twice about doing it again! It will get to be soo bad that any stupid little thing will set him off.
You need to talk to someone in a position of authority.
And when you break off the relationship ( and I SO Hope you do) bring someone with you. It seems like you will need some help dealing with this.
And for the record, I hope you get out of this whole and sane. You deserve someone who will cherish you for who you are.
2007-01-23 15:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by jackie jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. No man should hit a woman! Also you should not hit him. You both need to get couseling. You did not state what your living arrangments are. But, if you are living together I believe you should separate until this has been settled. You both are holding back some type of anger resentment from your past. I have been there in your shoes. Separation and Couseling was the only thing that helped us. Remember you have to love yourself before you can be loved!! Good Luck
2007-01-23 15:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lola420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you one thing for sure I just got out of a abusive relationship that lasted for 2 years and till this day he still bothers me and won't leave me alone leave with your life and all your teeth and your beautiful face. I know you love him but there are so many other ways to solve problems than fighting each other period. I hit my abuser before but I never hit him first. Don't turn into him. If he loves you than maybe after you guys get your tempers under control maybe it could work. I was once told anyone who hits you does not love you. If it would hurt them to see someone else hit then why would they do it. Please stay safe.
2007-01-23 16:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by mcqmnc329 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have hit him but he shouldnt have hit you back. You both were wrong. But if he hit you that hard to break the bones in your face then you need to break up with him it could be the start of an abusive relationship.
2007-01-23 15:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥TinaThat...ME♥♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is kid of wrong to hit him first..but if he is doing those horrible things to you then he deserves to be thrown off a cliff into sharp rocks. Don't ever let a man do those things to you..remember you are a woman not a child and you can do much better and you don't deserve that!! Get out while you can I beg of you!!
2007-01-23 15:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hits you and you love him alot talk to him about it bit if he has been drivting off go to a counseler and talk to him if he keeps on doing it run away to a special place where woman go when they get hit the counseler will contact one of those places for you.
P.s dont hit him!!! even if you get mad at him but if he hits you first it is self defence
2007-01-23 15:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Megan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of ya'll are wrong. And i'm sure you don't want to be in an abusive relationship. And if you are not married, him hitting on you is a sure sign that he is not the one that you should marry. My point is GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT. My goodness.
2007-01-23 15:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by fabulous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a violent relationship (yes, me, a man getting smacked around by a woman!). Any self-help placement will tell you to bail out...and they are right. Logically speaking ignoring the abuse, regardless of who thumped who, leads to you finding it harder to cope and the other party finding it easier to get away with it. Run, Forest, Run!!! (Or you and your partner could go to a relationship counsellor!)
I really hope this helps!
2007-01-23 15:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋