a week (slow season) to be calling me at work as he is home watching our 4 month old son... calling me to go to the store for diapers when he is home all day (with a car ) after I get home at 5:30-6:00 after picking up my own daughter from daycare?? That is pretty much the only chore he had to do all day.
2007-01-23 07:41:41 · 14 answers · asked by J M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
a week (slow season) to be calling me at work as he is home watching our 4 month old son... calling me to go to the store for diapers when he is home all day (with a car ) after I get home at 5:30-6:00 after picking up my own daughter from daycare?? That is pretty much the only chore he had to do all day.
Ok so the weather is not that cold for him to take the baby to his mom's when he does work so why can't he just run up the street to the store...it is not like it is 10 miles away. Yes he cleans the house and does a good job at that b/c he is the one home. When I was on maternity leave, I still got the diapers, formula etc...I just took the baby with me. I know I am going to end up going home tonight and getting the diapers myself...and to top it off I really want to go workout tonight..so I have that to do as well...then get up again tomorrow at 6am while he sleeps in with the baby.
2007-01-23 08:04:12 · update #1
Life isn't fair. My husband "clocked out" when we left the hospital.
I work 40+ hours a week.
I take complete care of our three month old.
I'm exclusively breastfeeding so daddy doesn't even have to feed baby.
He has NEVER stayed up with the baby.
He hardly ever puts the baby to bed.
He has never taken baby to daycare. Or picked him up.
He's great with baby when I'm there...but he can't sooth baby alone...so no it's not fair...but that's life.
He's a great guy...but he doesn't know how to be a good dad...and I don't have the time to teach him.
Do yourself a favor and get used to the fact that women are the stronger sex and that the children will always rely on us.
Even if the husbands tried a little harder...it's a rare case when they actually do it right anyway.
He has no idea what the hell he's doing...I'd never leave my baby home alone with him full time!
Go to costco on Saturday and buy 200 diapers...and then check the stock every saturday so that you never run out.
Organization is the key to keeping the house running and to keep from going insane.
Don't rely on daddy...they'll only let you down.
PS...you may want to think about daycare for that little one and get daddy's butt to a part time job during the "slow season"...that way at least he's helping in the only way they know how.
2007-01-23 07:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is the weather really nasty right now where you are? There is no sense in him taking the baby out in cold weather. If you're already out, why not pick up some pampers.
On the other hand, if he's just loitering about the house watching Soaps & Oprah all day, you'll have to talk to him about taking on some of the household duties. That includes going to the grocery store and picking up the kids from daycare.
2007-01-23 07:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Congrats! And by the way... Its so Exsausting to be a Stay at home mom, or dad! Now.... Sounds like he is just being lazy! I would tell him that he should really be able to take care of all the Grocery and Baby shopping, so then when you are off work, you are able to relax, and spend time with him and the Kids! Good Luck ;)
2007-01-23 07:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you use cloth diapers then you won't have to go to the store to get more, he can just throw some in the wash. Cloth diapers have come a LONG way from the past, they are just as easy to use as paper diapers. When you go to buy them, it seems expensive, but over the time that your child is in diapers, you save thousands of dollars and keep the trash out of the landfills.
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2007-01-23 07:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by mamabean 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it is exhausting to take care of a baby, especially if you are not used to it. You don't want to go when the baby is awake because you want to play with him/her instead of runnig errands. And you don't want to go when the baby is sleeping cuz you may wake him/her. Besides, you're already in the car and driving home. How hard is it to stop for 5 minutes and buy diapers? He's taking care of your baby. At least take care of the diapers!
2007-01-23 07:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow....what a loser! he needs to start stepping up as a boyfriend, employee and a father!! i wish that was all i had to do all day! i guess that i should be grateful with what my husband does, after all i could have a husband/boyfriend like yours......scary! Put your foot down and tell him to either get a real job or take care of the household/baby responsibilities! Hope everything works out for you! :)
2007-01-23 07:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by g's mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair and I think you should bring this logic to his attention. Put him in your shoes. Boyfriend, how would you feel if I was home with the baby and you were working so many hours etc... In my experience when it comes to guys and kids it's too much for them to handle getting things done (going to the store, etc..) alone with the kids. Like it's any easier for us right/
2007-01-23 07:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by islandgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not fair at all. You work your butt off, the least he can do is the errands and things of the like. Lay down the law, tell him to shape up or ship out.
2007-01-23 07:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by a_k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work because I have a great house, three cars, and take two to three vacations a year. I can't get that on welfare. You can feel free to live that way if you want.
2016-05-24 01:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO IT'S NOT FAIR,BUT THIS IS THE PROBLEM WHEN CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED IT ALWAYS FALLS ON ONE NORMALLY THE MOTHER,MY HUSBAND DOES THE SAME CRAP HE'LL GET UP AT 4 AM TO GO HUNTING BUT DO YOU THINK HE'D GET UP AT 6AM TO PUT THE KIDS ON THE BUS-NOOOOOO.LAY THE LAW DOWN TO HIM AND TELL HIM TO GROW THE HELL UP THAT YOU DON'T NEED ANOTHER BABY.
2007-01-23 07:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by reece v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋