Im 13 and pregnant...Abortion or Adoption...Just here me out?

Question

Ok my boyfriend trevis and i just found out that im pregant and were only 13. Our parents are letting us decide wether to aport or adopt. Im really leaning toward abortion...please tell me what you think and if you've been in this situation or have had an aportion please e-mail me or give me DETAILS

Answer 1

Adoption! You have a little life YOU created. You couldve prevented it but its not okay to punish your baby because of your mistake. This must be very difficult for you and being a mom Im sure you want the very best for your baby. Itll only be 9 months of your life,youll deliver the baby and the baby will go into loving arms who will adopt him or her. You can choose the parents,even arrange it to where youll have visitation rights,if you want. Please dont hurt your baby. You made a mistake but your baby isnt it.
Ill be happy to adopt the baby myself. Im married with two children. not kidding. [e-mail] emailo me.

Answer 2

There are so many women out there who can't have babies, and that is all they want. I think you should give your little baby a chance at life, even if it is with someone else. Some special couple would make a very happy life to your beautiful baby. If you are interested, there is also something called open adoption, where you can chose the adoptive parents and even be in the child's life as much or as little as you want- either visits or phonecalls, or just a card on their birthday. You would at least have the piece of mind that you know for sure he or she is taken care of and happy. I've known a few girls in my school and even after that have had abortions, and they all say it was the biggest mistake they ever made. They have to live with that decision every day for the rest of their lives, knowing that they took the gift of life away from an inocent little baby, that will never be able to experience all the joys and sorrows of life. Besides, it is a terrible and extremely painful thing to do to your body. and it could have irreversable effects including never being able to have children, and i am suprised your parents gave you that option being so young. it would be physically terrible for you, and regardless ofyour age, it is still their grandchild. i would think they would want it to have a good home.

Answer 3

This is the wrong site to be asking that type of question. So many people on here are anti-abortion. Frankly, I think that you should look into yourself and discuss it with your parents.
Make a list of pros and cons, and think about it:
Abort
-can complete school without being stared at, having pains during class, worrying about missing class because of morning sickness, birth, etc
-may be psychologically damaging to know you lost your baby

Adopt
-will have to miss some school
-will be forced to know the baby was born and it is out there somewhere but you will never see it
-the baby will, most likely, go to a good home
-you will have to deal with being pregnant

Being 13, I suggest aborting simply because it will allow you to continue to live a normal teenage life, which, by the fact you are not keeping it, it sounds like you want to do. There are already a ton of starving children in the world and it would be sad to worry if your baby is one of them...

Answer 4

I recommend adoption. Abortion can work in your favor now but you have to live with it the rest of your life. Abortions are risky there are consequences and one could make it where you cannot have anymore children ever. On the other hand adoption is hard because you carry this baby feel it and nourish it for nine months and are expected to just give it away. It will be hard. With Adoption there are so many options it can be closed where you give the baby away and that's it or you can have an open adoption where you can see how the baby grows up and have some contact with it. Get different opinions and really think what you want. Relationships at this age do not usually last forever.

Answer 5

One of my best friends was raped by her own father and became pregnant at the age of NINE. Her whole family turned against her because they didnt believe her until she had a DNA test done. She was just a little girl, but she already had the wisdom to know that the child growing inside her deserved a chance at a future. Despite the risks to her health and the difficult life she was bound to have, she carried her baby and gave birth. One of her grandmothers helped her raise the baby girl until my friend was old enough to do it herself. Her daughter is now 13, beautiful and happy. My friend got pregnant against her will and still took responsibility for the child she had been given. You CHOSE to have sex. Everyone knows that having sex means you can get pregnant, no matter how "careful" you are. You need to take responsibility for your actions, and at least let this precious child live. By the time a woman figures out she is pregnant, the baby already has a heartbeat and formed features. You made this child. At least give another loving couple the chance to give this baby a life. Another friend of mine had an abortion a year ago, and she still cries EVERY DAY because of it.

Answer 6

why would you wanna kill a life.. your parents didn't kill you so why would you? Since the first day, this baby has a heart beat. My sister has been trying to get preg. and she couln't.. and just like her there are a million of other women that are trying. If you think your too young, then please have your baby and make a family happy. Give it up for adoption. Advantages of abortion:
You will not be subjected to a full pregnancy and delivery.
An abortion may cost less than full-pregnancy obstetrical care and hospital delivery (depending upon your insurance coverage).
You will not have a newborn baby and will, therefore, not be required to decide whether to raise the baby yourself or place the baby for adoption.
Disadvantages of abortion:
You may feel remorse (sadness) and guilt about aborting your baby. You will know your EDC (expected date of confinement, or delivery date). You may remember each EDC anniversary with a twinge of sadness, thinking, "My little girl would have been three today," or, "My little boy would have been starting kindergarten this year." Sad memories can haunt a lifetime.
You will never know what potential the little life in you could have become, if he or she had been allowed to live and reach adulthood. Would he or she have been a scientist? A musician? A teacher? A great dad or mom to your grandchildren? Once you agree to end that little life, you also end his or her future. A decision about abortion is irreversible, and affects lives other than yours.
You will be breaking God's commandments for you, as recorded in The Holy Bible. (Read the Scriptures reproduced in this Website to decide for yourself whether God has written instructions for you.) Proverbs 6:16-17: (16) There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are detestable to him: (17) ...[one of which is] hands that shed innocent blood.... Ecclesiastes 12:14: For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil.

please think of what you are doing..may God bless you and lead you to the right decision.

Answer 7

This is a decision that u well have to make on your own. Either way u look at it it will be hard for you to do it. Just thinking having to care a child for 9 mo go through all the pains and doctors appt for a child that u are never going to see again. On the other hand if u do decide to go with the abortion then learn from your mistake don't just use it has another form of a birth control. A since its to late for the don't have sex speech u should protect you self if ur going to lay on ur back. The time it was a child next time it could be something that could take ur life

Answer 8

ultimately, the decision is up to you, but since you asked for opinions, I'll tell you mine.

I do not want to diminish the impact that pregnancy can have on a young girl's life--I know it would be difficult, but I think that it's all relative----it's not a black and white issue, for sure, but basically (in most cases, perhaps not all) I believe that it comes down to the issue of 9 months of your life vs. the *life* of the baby. Yes, a pregnancy will be difficult, and I think many people will try to justify that dealing with the fallout and consequences of a pregnancy will really affect your life---but, don't casually forget that the fallout and consequences of having an abortion will weigh very heavily on your mind as well, probably for the rest of your life. I really don't think that abortion is "free pass" to forget about the pregnancy and never consider it ever again. So, either way---going through with the pregnancy or getting an abortion, there will be difficult times. So, it all comes down, I think, to what the benefits are---and since you're going to have to deal with the fallout of EITHER choice, I see it as the "benefit" from the baby's point of view----give the baby up for adoption and you're giving it the gift of life, you'll never have to deal with the guilt/emotionall consequences of having had an abortion. If you are in a healthy, supportive environment (and it sounds like you are since your parents know and are giving you space) that should help to make the 9 month pregnancy easier on you.

Answer 9

It's a very hard decision but you are only 13 and the thought of carrying a child and giving birth at 13 is very scary. I'm 33 and pregnant for the first time and scared as heck, I couldn't imagine 13. If you have the baby it will be very hard to give it up for adoption after carrying it in you for 9 months. You are WAY TO YOUNG to care for a child. You still have many years ahead to grow up. Abortion is a choice, you are not a bad person for considering it. Whatever choice you make know that you are not alone and millions of women have made the same choice. Ignore the nasty responses you get, decide with Trevis what to do and move on with your life. good luck

Answer 10

There are consequences to both:

Abortion--Certainly easier in the short term. You won't have to carry a child, you can get back to a normal life. Long term, you may feel guilty and wish you hadn't taken that route. Or you might not. Abortion will not hurt you medically, you will be able to have children just fine by the way. Just ask any doctor, and they will let you know that this will not hurt your chances in the future.

Adoption--You have to carry a baby, give birth to it, feel deeply for it, then give it up. You could have an open adoption where you choose the parents and they keep you updated on the child. They send you pics every now and then, you might get to see it once or twice every few years. This might be hard too because while you will love the child, the adoptive family will be his parents and that might be hard emotionally. You might also do a closed adoption where you just gave the baby up and it went with some parents and you didn't really know what was going on in the kid's life.

It's up to you, it's your child, you're the mother. But you are so young. What does your boyfriend think?

Answer 11

It's your decision to make, honey, and be prepared for serious regrets whatever you decide. An open adoption would be the choice I'd recommend (although I don't know what shape your young body is in, if there might be any reason why you can't deliver a baby). In an open adoption, you and the adopting family know each other and you (and your boyfriend) can follow your baby's growth and see what a beautiful young woman or handsome young man it becomes. Keep in mind that you will always be a mother and your boyfriend will always be a father from now on, no matter what happens to your baby. Neither abortion or adoption will change that. Best wishes, honey.