2007-01-23 07:25:27 · 19 answers · asked by caramelcutie20745 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am going to speak from personal experience and professional knowledge as I am a woman with an extremely high libido AND I am studying to be a sex therapist.
Yes, it CAN last. It can last if you love each other, honor each other, communicate your feelings to each other, and still make each other feel desirable through actions other than sex. Sex ( although trivilized in society) is physically pleasurable ,yes, but it also a beautiful gift you are giving each other. It's about quality, not quantity.
If you have physical needs that need attending to, speak to your husband about alternative methods of satisfaction. I am sure he wants to see you happy! If he can't maintain of achieve an erection, perhaps he can perform oral sex on you, manually stimulate you, use toys on you, or help you stimulate yourself. That way you can share the sexual experience together without him needing to use his penis to feel like an active participant.
Do sexy things for yourself and by yourself and don't feel guilty if you need to engage in a little "one-on-one" time with yourself. Using your imagination and your fingers can often do the trick in a time of need.
Just make sure you are open with each other and still find ways to make each other feel desirable and everything will work out fine!
2007-01-23 07:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Namaste Nahmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - well I'm sure he is probably equally annoyed that you don't want to do it anymore. Ironically most women seem to always worry their husbands won't want them anymore once they are pregnant, they say they feel so unattractive. Here you got a guy who is all gung-ho for you. Of course it's 11 weeks so it seems awful early for this abrupt disinterest in sex. I can understand women always seem to have a lower sex drive, maybe pregnancy underscores it ( Though I know at least 2 women who were the opposite - they got really into sex once they got pregnant lol ) The best advice is that you be straight with him and tell him you are just not interested right now. We have a hard time grasping what women want at times, and being vague does not help at all. ( i.e. "He should KNOW what I want" is silly - we are not mind readers you need to spell things out in black and white so we understand ) He'll survive it. Though if this is your new position in life, bringing him from a couple times a day or week, to 2 times a month or something , that is just a formula for a guy giving in to temptation when a hot girl walks by him in the office or flirts with him. This is why so many guys I know won't get married - why get married when your partner will put the brakes on sex with you - but has you legally bound so you can't get the sex anywhere else anymore now -- when you could have just stayed single or keep dating lol.
2016-05-24 01:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband go t sick and it affected his sex drive and we lived that way the last 10 yrs of our marriage No it wasn't the illness that made him that way he just has issues and we just worked around them and believe it or not had a very good marriage until he passed away Sex is not everything sometimes you have to choose other thing
if you both want it to work it most likely will
I wish you love
2007-01-23 07:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i have always seemed to have a higher sex drive then my husband but we have been happily married 16 yrs and it has never affected our marriage but every marriage is different.For the last few yrs his sex drive has seemed to get higher..So if u two truly love each other dont let it affect ur marriage cause of course sex is important and great in a marriage its NOT the most important part.
2007-01-23 07:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being that the libido difference wasn't a concern before marriage, hopefully it'll continue to be this way. It will last if they focus on other things.
2007-01-23 07:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, here is the problem with this. A good looking woman is going to always have her choice of any one of a thousand men to fulfill her needs that are not getting met at home. Unless she is made of stone, she will probably not be able to resist the temptation. I would seriously consider that this may not work.
2007-01-23 07:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the issue of sex. If you push it it's gonna make him feel that he's obligated. If he's under alot of stress in his job it can have an effect on his sex drive. Just be supportive of him and let him know that he can pleasure you sexually in otherways than penetration. Also if he's really tired, let him get some rest.
2007-01-23 07:59:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will what last? The current situation? Or your marriage?
Sex drives come and go. If it stays like this forever, something will need to change or the marriage will deteriorate. Guaranteed.
2007-01-23 08:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. It is just a phase that comes and goes.
2007-01-23 07:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if he lets her get some on side. She can let him help pick man and be their during if he wants. Only way it will last
2007-01-23 07:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋