My boyfriend and I had a huge fight on about two weeks ago and as a result broke up. Since then I have tried to talk to him and at first all we did was yell at each other but the last couple times we have talked have been much more civil but im not really sure what to think about another girl. Less than a week after we broke up he added a 16 yr old girl on his myspace (he is 22) now the one day we had somewhat normal conversation he said she was just a girl that worked at a store that he went to all the time. I didn’t really think anything about it but then the morning after I drove out to see him and talk (he said he still loved me and thinks about me and misses me) the girl ended up one space ahead of me on his myspace. Now we talked on the phone Sunday night and I didn’t call him last night (when I do call he usually says he is busy and will have to call me back but doesn’t) now this morning she moved further up on his myspace and is the first person on his list that isn’t
2007-01-23 07:23:03 · 7 answers · asked by Angeleyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
family. Is he just trying to hurt me since I broke up with him and make me feel bad or is there something more with this girl?
The only reason I think that he still cares about me is a few days after we broke up and he didn’t really want to talk to me or said he would call me back and didn’t I decided not to call him and see what he would do/say and he ended up calling me asking if I still wanted to talk and it seemed like he was really upset and possibly crying, then two weekends ago I came to his house and after I knocked I looked in the window because the light was on and was almost positive that I saw him standing there. I text him a couple times but when he didn’t answer I just went back home. That morning he called me and told me that he was sleeping and that I couldn’t have seen him. Then this past week on Tuesday night I made an effort ot call him and he said he would have to call me back that he was busy and I just asked what he was doing (we always told each other
2007-01-23 07:24:02 · update #1
everything that we were doing) and he said he was talking to someone and I asked how since he was being secretative he asked me if that mattered then I asked if he was talking to another girl he got quiet for a minute then came back with an attitude saying yea im talking to a girl in fact im with ten girls (that part I knew was a lie). The next morning after I came back from class he left me a message saying he was sorry about the girl comments and that he was just sore and frustrated b/c he’s one ex who has a daughter with was calling and trying to argue with him. I just don’t think that he would have called the first time and wondered if I was going to call him, or call and tell me that I couldn’t have seen him that night because he was sleeping and if he was awake he would have let me in, and then with the message saying he was sorry. Anyone have any ideas?
2007-01-23 07:24:22 · update #2
Sorry this is so long ....we were together seven months and im just wondering if there is anything between him and this girl and if he really does care about me and love me like he says. I would ask him about the girl but he says that I need to prove that I can trust him and i think he is kinda waiting for me to ask.
2007-01-23 07:26:16 · update #3
Augh, I couldn't read it all...but this guy is torturing you. Leave him alone. Don't call him. He sounds very immature. What 22 yr old hangs out with a 16 yr old girl. That's scary. You broke up with him...move on.
2007-01-23 07:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by crazymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... that is crazy b/c i went through the same thing just 6 weeks ago! i kicked my fiancee out, and a couple days later he started talking to this 16 yr old (he is 21).. what is with guys and the 16 yr olds? OK so this was 6 weeks ago for me, and they are now together and living together, but i know from his family, that all he does it talk about me... since u r in a very similar situation, it seems like the guy is trying to make u jealous, and make u think that there are other girls out there who want him. and make u want him back. honestly, do u really want a 22 yr old who is talking to (or whatever) to 16 yr olds. that's the way i see it. it helps to move on, and enjoy being single.
2007-01-23 15:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by sugar69c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not waitin around for you...and he DOES want to impress the 16 year old. She's not just 'some girl' if she's movin up on his myspace. Either she's demanded it, or he wants to impress her...either way he's makin a statement. Can't you hear it? Make it either on both of you and stop calling him. He only called you because he had nothin better goin on...I guess the lil girl wasnt online or got upset at him cuz she wasnt rated higher on his myspace...
Dont just be 'an option' for him unless you've got other 'options' as well
2007-01-23 15:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a back-and-fort thing, where you just can't find a straight path. Anyway, he knows that he's torturing you, and probably enjoys getting back at you. And the more unpleasant truth is that our instincts are right almost 90% of the time. As with the 16yr old girl, your guts are warning you, most probably for a reason. Let him go, a self-pitying man is never that self-pitying or hopeless at all!
2007-01-23 15:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl whatever there is it is fishy. Let him go and find yourself a mature man who is looking for a mature woman like yourself.
2007-01-23 15:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call him and if he calls act unconcerned, ask no questions, just listen. If he does not call, move on, there are plenty of fish to be had.
2007-01-23 15:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUHLEEEEEZ SHORTEN THAT QUESTION!!! thnx
2007-01-23 15:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by Love at first sight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋