Im in my teens and at school and stuff and I like guys and girls. Is that the big clue? My mom said that I am to really know until im older.... But is it?
2007-01-23 06:57:28 · 22 answers · asked by becca 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can know. It's the same way that little kids- like eight and nine year olds- can know that they're straight or gay. Of course, at that age, they don't really know what all that implies, but they know that they get those cute kiddie crushes on little Jimmy or Sally, or both. Not all little kids know their own inclinations, but a good deal do.
By the time you get into your teens, hormones are starting to flow, sex is being talked about, and I think it's absolutely natural to start questioning things.
Some people will tell you to wait and see. It's true, sometimes a little confusion can be mistaken for bisexuality, and sometimes as you mature you 'settle' into your sexuality, and find the desire for the 'other' sex, whatever sex that is, fading. But if you think you're bisexual right now, I say go with it. It's perfectly fine to say you're bisexual (because, for the moment- and probably the future- you are). Don't stress too much about it; that's my advice.
Good luck!
2007-01-23 11:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person. Some know when they're children, some in their teens, some older, and some are just never quite sure. I think it's partly due to society assuming the majority gears toward heterosexuality. In reality, I have a feeling that most people are at least open-minded and curious about bisexuality.
Whatever feels right for you, is the right thing *for* you. And if you still don't know what that is, that's ok, too. *smile*
Good luck. :)
2007-01-23 07:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be bi-sexual at any age because you have the freedom of choice as an individual. Homosexuality is also a choice although they will tell you that they have no choice which is basically their crutch. Life is all about choices and consequences. There are real life consequences like, sexually transmitted diseases, broken hearts, permanent memories of bad experiences, guilt, secrets from family or spouse that torment you and many other bad results from bad choices. Then, you get into religion which teaches against homosexuality or sex outside of marriage. Do you have any interest in God? You would do well to talk to a real Christian if you can find a real one. Don't confuse your ability to do things without permission with consequences of your actions. Young people suffer the same consequences as those in their 20's, 30's, etc. Don't do stuff because others do it without considering what it's going to do to them and to you. Is sex really that important to you over everything else in life for the rest of your life?
2007-01-23 07:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Larry62 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes and no im a teen also and i think i have really known i was gay since i was like 5 but it didnt matter till i started becoming sexually attracted to people ....just take time and think about weather you are really bi or a lesbian or straight.......peace
Jake
(if you ever wanna talk my AIM is Jakemitchell8182)
2007-01-23 08:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jake M. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it might just be a phase that you'll grow out of...I think what your mom means is that you won't truly know your sexuality until you are older and can understand it a little better.
I'm still learning about my own sexuality and I'm in my early 20s....
2007-01-23 07:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by Haven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are aware at a sexuality at an early age. It all depends on the individual. Some people struggle with their sexuality and some just accept it as what it is.
2007-01-23 07:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are what you are, at any age. If you're physically attracted to boys and girls, then you're bisexual. That may swing more to one direction or the other as you get older, but probably not to either extreme, that is, gay or straight. Congratulations! You get to enjoy the best of both worlds! Enjoy!
2007-01-23 07:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the teen years are normally when you start to get an idea of who you are to be, but also do alot of experimenting that may mean nothing, ive 'made out' with both sexes, a few times but i dont think it means anything, (im 15) dont take anything too seriously until you are about 18 or maybe your 20s
2007-01-23 07:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think most people are born with their sexual orientation. So, you've always been bi. You will probably narrow down your preference a bit more over time, but you won't necessarily choose men or women rather than both.
Kudos to your mom for being so open about it.
2007-01-23 07:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will only know for sure until you try it. So I'd say date both men and women, and see what you think. You have your whole life to make a decision. There is no rush, especially in a situation like this. The end result will make you happy either way.
2007-01-23 07:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋